You Are What You Say: The Proven Program That Uses the Power of Language to Combat Stress, Anger, and Depression

by Larry Rothstein and Matthew Budd

Book Overview

"Why are you sick?" This question, posed in compassion by his grandmother Minnie after a childhood incident plunged him into illness, stayed with Dr. Matthew Budd throughout his lifetime in medicine. As a teacher and physician at Harvard for more than thirty years, he repeatedly asked his patients this question. He found, remarkably, that it often unlocked memories, secrets, anger, resentments, and fears that had played crucial roles in their illnesses...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0812929624
• ISBN13: 9780812929621
• Release Date: August 2001
• Publisher: Harmony
• Length: 272 Pages
• Weight: 0.95 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.9" x 9.3"

Customer Reviews

Excellent Book!

If you have found Understanding Computers and Cognition by Dr Fernando Flores or the Tree of knowledge from Dr Humberto Maturana difficult to understand, this book is for you. Dr Budd does an excellent job of articulating some of the world's greatest thinkers of our time in an easy to read format. I have been studying this work for 15 years and think that this is an excellent primer. The fact that he relates it to solving health problems such as headaches, jaw and neck pain, insomnia, stomach and bowel problems, lack of energy, high blood pressure, anxiety, and depression is a bonus. Our language is inherently related to our health.

Absolutely wonderful and a very important book.

I wish I had read Dr. Budd's book earlier in my life. I came very close to dying once, lost a kidney, because I trusted the professional opinion of the doctor before I learned to trust my own feelings. Dr. Budd shows us how to have greater awareness and to take greater responsibility in our own healing process. The exercises in the book are important to move you from just reading to experiencing and beginning to change your life. This book should be mandatory reading at every medical school.

Life changing

This book will show you how your language reveals the way you see the world and how this either opens or closes possibilities for you to be successful, to love and to be loved. This book can change your life, if you read it, do the practices and watch your language.

How to become a better communicator

Because conversation is so much a part of our everyday lives, we tend to take it for granted. Dr. Budd's book does a wonderful job teaching how to create win-win interactions with people in all aspects of our lives. I relate it to creating great dialogue as the most effective form of interpersonal communication. We all have a personal communication style that sums up how we behave in everyday conversations and how what we say and feel can effect our health. Dr. Budd made it possible for me to understand through his exercises in the book and the personal stories throughout the book how to get through my own stumbling blocks. I can't wait to see the results! I love and cherish this book. JG

Wisdom, Insight, and Practicality

Dr.Budd has brought forward a powerful program, which enables all that are open to it, to find a new way to experience life, health, and a spiritual awakening. The clarity with which he articulates his ideas, as well as those of his esteemed colleagues Maturana, Flores, and others, has the ability to open places in all of us that too often lay dormant. In reading Dr. Budd's book I have experienced the "light bulb going off", whereby I had to put the book down for periods of time and really think about how I lead my own life. I found Chapter 4 particularly helpful, as Dr. Budd quite eloquently outlines how we generate the life we live through our own language use. His description of "The Ten Linguistic Viruses" impacted me deeply, having the same sort of power as that of The Ten Commandments (religion aside). I found the comments of his four very diverse patients, which he weaves throughout the book, very interesting and helpful. It encouraged me to look again at how I experience and lead my own life. Yet, I never felt confused or overwhelmed as to how to make changes. The exercises at the end of each chapter proved to be an enormous help. I felt I was given the tools to journey to new places in my own inner life with great care and guidance. Dr. Budd's deep insights, concern, and practical help communicate hope to all that are willing to look, listen, and learn again.