You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!

by Fiona Rosenbloom

Book Overview

Now a hit Netflix film

Stacy Friedman is getting ready for one of the most important events of her young life -- her bat mitzvah. All she wants is the perfect dress to wear, her friends by her side, and her biggest crush ever, Andy Goldfarb, to dance with her (and maybe even make out with her on the dance floor). But Stacy's well-laid plans quickly start to fall apart... Her stressed-out mother forces her to buy a hideous sequined...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0316565504
• ISBN13: 9780316565509
• Release Date: July 2023
• Publisher: Poppy Books
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.05 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.3" x 7.7"
• Age Range: 8 to 12 years
• Grade Range: Grades 3 to 7

Customer Reviews

This book.

The first time I read this book, I was 12 years old. I fell in love with it. It was full of just the right amount of teen angst and awkwardness, that any young kid can relate to. Here I am, 21 years old, and super stoked to finally purchase a book I haven't read in 8 years. I know I will not be disappointed, as I still use slang that was in this book. 😂

Post Bat Mitzvah Reader

I was given this book just 5 days before my bat mitzvah and instead of studying i read it constintly i couldn't put it down!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT WAS THE BEST BOOK I EVER READ

Three Mitzvahs

A book review by Aria Wexler You Are so Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah is an outstanding novel written by Fiona Rosenbloom. The book is Rosenbloom's first and only book. Miss Rosenbloom writes the book in the perspective of a Jewish teenage girl's emotion as she becomes a young adult. Throughout the book Rosenbloom uses shorter sentences to get the point across. The protagonist of the book is Stacy Friedman. She is only asking God for a few things. The, realistic fiction, book mainly focuses on a young girl growing up. It explains the emotions that Stacy has to go through with her parents divorce, a younger brother, her crush, and friendship. Just when Stacy thought that her mother and father would get back together she finds out her father has a girl friend, and she has to watch her mother suffer without a husband anymore. Stacy feels humiliated about her brother, Arthur, who is at least 20 pounds over weight and extremely intelligent. Stacy has a huge crush on Andy Goldfarb, but she just isn't sure if he likes her back. Most importantly Stacy ends up uttering the words that she has been dreading, and she ends up saying it to someone very close in her life. She screams at them "You are so not invited to my Bat Mitzvah!" Since Stacy is planning and studying for her bat mitzvah, a Jewish ceremony of coming of age, she needs to meat with the Rabbi. After talking with Stacy he fills that it would help her to do 3 Mitzvah projects, (community service work) before her bat mitzvah. Stacy struggles with the mitzvahs (good deeds) she chooses to do. The day before her bat Mitzvah she feels like she has done three failed mitzvah projects. In the end do Stacy's Mitzvah's finally work out or has she completely failed? I would give this book two Thumbs up! Through Stacy Friedman's thoughts, feelings, and personal experiences Fiona Rosenbloom has made the book inspiring throughout. The book was a real cliff hanger! I highly recommend this book for especially girls ages 11-15. You don't need to be Jewish to read and relate to this spectacular book Number of pages: 190

A wide audience, even non-Jewish readers, will appreciate Stacy's realistic dilemmas

Fiona Rosenbloom's You Are So Not Invited To My Bat Mitzvah! (0786856165, $15.99) is both hilarious and revealing, telling of one Stacy Friedman, getting ready for the highlight of her life, her bat mitzvah. She plans for success, friendships and romance, but when she struggles with her mother's idea of fashion, difficulty with the mitzvahs, and conflicts, her bat mitzvah begins to look like more of a disaster than a success. A wide audience, even non-Jewish readers, will appreciate Stacy's realistic dilemmas.

Must read for parents and Jewish educators

You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah engagingly confronts the reader with the real issues most in the foreground of most middle to upper class urban and suburban, non-Orthodox twelve and thirteen year-old girls - clothes, divorcing parents, fitting in with the peer group, mean-spiritedness among girls, drinking, smoking, and somewhere between 12 and 13, kissing and being touched by boys. This is a must read for parents, Hebrew School, day school, youth group and summer camp staff. Don't say your adolescent isn't suffering through most of the issues addressed, my own doctoral studies documented that 60-73% of our youth are indeed getting physical with each other by age 13. That said, Jewish values lurk, but are not the strength of this book, where the typical meaningless bar/bat mitzvah preparation process hangs out in the plot's background. It seems that if not for a run-in between rabbi and student, Jewish values might not have emerged at all, given that it features cell phone use on Shabbat and celebrates a first kiss with a boy as the highlight of a bat mitzvah party experience. Given the controversial subject matter, parents and teachers must preview in order to decide whether it is suitable for your bar/bat mitzvah students to read within the context of local values. Also, not all educators, tutors and rabbis will have facilitation skills for the level of discussion that begs to ensue from reading this but all Jewish educators will benefit from discussing this book. NOW is the time for Jewish educators to create safe forums, with Jewish values added, to support our youth and parents in navigating this amazing and challenging phase of the journey called life. Review written by, Rabbi Dr. Goldie Milgram, author, Make Your Own Bar/Bat Mitzvah: A Personal Approach to Creating a Meaningful Rite of Passage.

Great read for post Bat Mitzvah teenage girls!

My 14 yr old (very picky reader) daughter was drawn to read this book by the cover. She had her Bat Mitzvah last year. Sometimes you CAN judge a book by its' cover. She read it constantly, even walking around the house and then told me I HAD to read it. I am glad I did as it is laugh out loud funny and true to the highs and lows of teenage emotions. Some events were definitely more (advanced) than my daughter has lived through, but the book exposed her to far less than a typical PG-13 movie. I highly recommend this book and plan to share it with other teenagers through our Temple library. Although we read the book from the post Bat Mitzvah stand point, this is a book that would appeal to anyone who is experiencing or has lived through that time of flucuating emotions and friendships that is so common to the teenage years. We loved it!