I'm feverish with all the possibilities, says one woman of her life now. This is the time when we start to think about what kind of legacy we want to leave behind. But there is also our inner bitch that yearns to be heard, silenced for many until midlife. As a forty-eight-year-old woman said, or rather, ranted, "Is it too much to ask for it to be my time now? For my husband to think about what needs to be done without my telling him? For my son to...