Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart

by Sherry Argov

Book Overview

Love and marriage, romance and intimacy...everybody wants it, but it seems only the select few get it. Never shy and always laugh-out-loud funny, Sherry Argov's Why Men Marry Bitches is a sharp-witted manifesto that shows women how to transform a casual relationship into a committed one. Dating can feel like a contact sport and modern mating rituals can be impossible to decode, with little consensus on the rules of engagement and both sides tired...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 074327637X
• ISBN13: 9780743276375
• Release Date: June 2006
• Publisher: Simon & Schuster
• Length: 246 Pages
• Weight: 0.81 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.5" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

The worst book I’ve probably ever read.

Booo 👎 The advice in this book doesn’t hold up anymore and honestly I’d be surprised if it ever did. Want some advice? Use this book for kindling.

WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES IS SUPERIOR

I respectfully disagree with the previous reviewer who said that Argov's first book was better. As a guy, I thought the exact opposite: "Why Men MARRY Bitches" gives women much more sorely-needed advice. This book is not about marriage. It's about why single women don't enter relationships that progress, and would be a good read for single and married women. From a male's perspective, I was amazed at how well it gets into the minds of men and tells women what makes us want to be exclusive, what makes us lose interest in other women, what we respect... "marry" nails it from a man's perspective. The first book Argov talks about things that are obvious and predictable, like whether or not to sleep with the guy on the first date. "Why Men MARRY Bitches" talks about how a guy will test a girl, how he may manipulate her to keep the relationship casual, how a guy might lead her to believe he's interested in committing and then do the "holding pattern" with the "I'm really busy with work" excuses. The advice in the last chapter on what a women should say to a guy when it isn't progressing is outstanding. It tells women why things don't progress, and that's where most women need help. They have no problem catching a guy, it's keeping him around where it gets messed up and that's why "Why Men Marry Bitches" is superior. Also, I can confirm Argov would have no way of knowing the things she discloses in this book unless she actually sat down and interviewed us men. I found myself saying under my breath, "Who told her this?" on almost every page. I was blown away by the discussions of how men are made to feel they are "filling a position" when a women talks about "wanting to get married" (but doesn't matter to whom). It is such valuable information for women to read. I also think the chapter called "Wanted Joe Paycheck" in "Why Men Marry Bitches" is brilliant. Argov describes that a guy won't mind paying for a dinner, but we won't attach himself to a woman who has the "attitude of entitlement." There are really good examples about women planning the excessive wedding arrangements, a woman who quits her job without consulting with her fiance, and so on....it's something EVERY SINGLE woman needs to educate herself on if she wants to keep a guy around because we will not commit if we feel like an ATM machine. There's no question most women don't even know how they are being perceived by men. So they are trying to get respect but don't know how. I like and respect women, and think they should be treated with respect, which is what the author is teaching women to demand. I gave "Why Men Marry Bitches" five stars. If I could, I would give this book six. It's a very "real" book that is also entertaining and funny--and both men and women should absolutely pick it up.

Hands down best relationship book ever written!!

Being married over 10 years, and reading many books on the subject of "How to improve your relationship", I can truly say that none of the advice I had been given really helped my marriage. It wasn't until I read this amazing book that I understood why my relationship with my husband had been lacking. My life was so absorbed in his life, that I didn't have a life of my own. The more I tried to make things work in my marriage, the less respect I received from my husband. Since reading Sherry Argov's book, I have literally told every woman I know about it. Women need to be informed about "men's secret games", and more importantly, women need to know how to avoid being taken advantage of by these games. It doesn't matter if you are simply dating or whether you have been married 10 years, the advice in this book will not only improve your relationship, but it will help you respect and love yourself. Men always think that confident women are "HOT". Sherry shows you how to become this type of woman!! Thank you Sherry from the bottom of my heart!! You have given me the tools I need to save my troubled marriage, and my troubled self esteem. You are a genius!!

FUNNY BUT FASCINATING--MY FAVORITE RELATIONSHIP BOOK OF ALL TIME

This book is the best book I've ever read--bar none. I've shared some of the content with men and expected them to be offended. They weren't. All of them said that the advice was on point, and that the author did an excellent job of pointing out the things women do or say to talk men OUT of wanting commitment. Men I spoke with said that the author really must have intereviewed men. It's packed with good information where you have one "ah ha" moment after another. I saw the author on the "Today Show" and she said that mystery or intrigue is to a man....what romance is to woman. That immediately got my attention because it made sense. When a man is unfamiliar with a woman in the beginning, that's when he's pulling out all the stops to be romantic. The wonderful thing is that the author shows women how to give men excitement and intrigue (which they enjoy), so he fall deeper and deeper in love with the woman. Argov has bolded principles that are easy to follow--with examples and stories which are hysterically funny. It's some times like reading stand up comedy. It's funny...then serious...funny...then serious. I laughed until it hurt several times. The principle in the book that I like best is: "Men like to be kept curious. They like to feel that there's more to the story then what they already know." All the behavior is subtle nuance. The information is .... so easy to follow! I got better information out of this book then I did from reading all the other books combined. Get it...you won't be sorry.

AS HILARIOUS AS STAND UP COMEDY, AND AS SMART AS A WHIP

"Why Men Marry Bitches" is the best book on relationships. Whenever my male friends read through the book they say, "Wow. She is 100% right. How did she get this information?" What I LOVE so much about this book is that it shows you HOW men view commitment, and the REAL reasons why men don't want to get involved. In the book, men reveal that they want an emotional connection as much as women do, but often feel they aren't "special" because most women seem like they want a commitment...with ANYBODY. Doesn't matter who the guy is, she wants a commitment before she knows his middle name. And Argov explains with crystal clarity exactly what turns men off, and how a few small modifications in a woman's words or actions makes all the difference in the world. For example, the author explains that women sometimes ask questions or say things like "Where is this going?" or "What are your intentions?" before she even knows where the guy lives. When a guy gets those types of questions, he automatically assumes she is in love with "the idea" of a commitment, or that she's in love with "the wedding" or what a relationship represents. At that point he keeps her at arm's length, because (as men explain in their own words) what they dream of is a woman who is in love....WITH WHO HE IS! She won't just commit to anyone. Argov has a rare ability to make you laugh and at the same time helps you realize how to do better. It's a feel good read that is entertaining and brilliant at the same time. You walk away feeling like you stand a little taller, and that men are likeable, sensitive and human. If you've ever wondered why most relationships stall after two or three months, after reading this book, YOU'LL GET IT. What I love most is the fact that Argov doesn't tell you what you are doing wrong...she explains how you can do it right. She never talks down to the reader. She doesn't bash men. She even makes fun of herself. She gives you the feeling that she's down to earth and real, and that she's kicking back over a beer with you hanging out and cheering you up like a sister would. But at the same time, she gives the kind of seasoned advice that a relative or best friend would give about dignity and pride. And of course, she shows you how to turn the typical dating dynamic around so that he comes away feeling like COMMITMENT WAS HIS IDEA! If you buy this book and get past the title--you will find it refreshing, hilariously funny, and extremely enlightening. I never give 5 stars for anything. But this one is 5 star worthy because of the information....as well as the entertainment comedy value. You'll laugh out loud reading it.

If you want to get married--read this book

Why Men Marry Bitches is a funny, insightful, and practical guide. It dispels the self-defeating myths that women often live by, like "I have to cathc a husband to feel whole" which translates to men as a more desirable woman. It gives logical relationship principles, and gives hilarious, detailed scenarios on how to handle the beloved, (if sometimes trying), man in your life. Read and follow the advice in this book only if you are seriously interested in having a quality relationship. Why Men Marry Bitches begins with the uproarious anecdote: "Imagine a world in which roles are reversed and men cooked for women, picked up socks and couldn't wait to get married. Pretend you had a boyfriend who owned a hope chest with six lavender bow ties inside that he wanted his groomsmen to wear at the wedding. Picture him getting choked up every time you strolled past a Baby Gap. And that he greeted you at the door wearing silk boxers and cowboy boots, so he could do a pole dance for you." Then imagine they ask needy questions like "Where's my ring?" and "Why won't you marry me?" Why Men Marry Bitches makes it clear that women don't need to work harder to please their man. The book not only encourages women to let go of long-standing myths about being perfect, being his sex toy, or being whoever he tells you to be--it exposes these myths for the self-defeating behaviors that women have to act like servants, and explains why men are secretly attracted to a strong woman who has more to bring to the table. The main theme of the book is incredibly empowering--live your own life fully and the proposals will keep on coming. Forget when the other books tell you and listen to the advice in Why Men Marry Bitches. The book gives clear guidance based on hundreds of interviews Argov conducted with men to find out what is really going on. Chapters such as "Female Button Pushing: A Time-Honored Male Tradition" and "Breaking into the Boy's Club: Stolen Secrets--All the Highly Classified Things Men Will Share Only in the Company of Other Men," expose the secret strategies, codes, and signs men use to test women, to cover their own vulnerabilities, and to be sure they are loved for themselves--not what they can provide a woman. Think of it like visiting a foreign country, you'll have a better time if you know the "language." Argov provides the kind of "male-language" tutorial only a friend who has your best interest at heart can give. Perhaps the most useful sections of Why Men Marry Bitches are the practical situations that Argov tackles. We've all been there. There's the small stuff--the man we love, doesn't call, breaks plans, or comes home late. There's the bigger stuff--the man we love is hesitant to propose. Why Men Marry Bitches gives realistic, specific advice on how to handle these situations while maintaining your dignity, self-respect, and independence. And that's how you make him fall more in love with you. Because dignity is the biggest turn-