Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl?A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

by Sherry Argov

Book Overview

Do you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1580627560
• Release Date: October 2002
• Publisher: Adams Media
• Length: 255 Pages
• Weight: 0.78 lbs.
• Dimensions: 8.4" x 0.9" x 5.5"

Customer Reviews

Amazing Read!!

i jus came outta a toxic relationship where i didnt stand my ground!! this was like a slap to the face that i needed!! sherry is so funny nd she uses words from men to advocate for her words and rules!! this was an amazing read nd i definitely needa re-read!! good for single girls or girls who jus have a hard time standing up for themselves!

Love this book!

Book is in great condition. I learned that the best home cooked meal is Vienna sausages and crackers. Haha!

Must Read for any Aspiring High Value Woman

I wish I read this book in my 20ies... it would have given me an important perspective. If you are wondering why keep getting into situationships, men telling you they love you, but won't commit. Read this. The author empowers women to value themselves, stand their ground and enforce their boundaries. The best book I have read this year.

awesome book! great and fun read

this book really helped me! not only was it a fun and very pleasurable read, I truly feel that Sherry despite having written the book in what I predict to be somewhat late 80s or 90s, The book still passes the test of time. The advice in the book still with stands with the standards and procedures of today. I truly feel that from the beginning of the book until the end of the book I have changed my view on relationships dating and men. And I’m very happy that I read it!

Great book about putting yourself first

Some situations a bit dated, but overall a great book. Technically it’s about relationships with men, but it’s REALLY about developing a great relationship with yourself first. Great advice.

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Arrived on time Good book

Past and future minds

It's a type of book that makes you frustrated and feel out of touch, yet makes you think. Forces you to realize you need to be your own dream girl not settle for less. That most men believe so little in you yet the book tells you to need to be sure of yourself and know your worth more than you are taught. It doesn't flat out tell you how to do that and doesn't tell you all men think as such.

Booooooooooooo

The woman that wrote this book would be a character written by a man. Not up to date on anything and filled with slt shaming.

I love this book

Nice book!

Hay que clavada! No le hagan caso a Ritz! y si de plano.... Ritz no tiene sentido del humor.... yo soy bastante conservadora y el título, al igual que a mis amigas, nos cayó mucho en gracia!!!! Es un libro interesante.... da tips más acertados y no tan elevados como en otros libros....

She understands the male mind.. ..a guy's view

Firstly, in this book BITCH means Babe In Total Control Of Herself. She gives you priciples not 'rules' to transform from ignored or taken for granted doormat to relentlessly pursued dreamgirl, who is independent, strong, and not needy. Initially, I wondered if Sherry is a guy, because she is so onto us. To her credit she did interview many men, to get these deep insights. In fact she has compiled our secret playbook. I wonder if it is a good thing to have too many of our deep secrets in female hands, because it forces us to change our lazy relationship ways. There is a self improvement principle - you teach people how to treat you. So do what you have always done, and get what you always got, or teach them how to treat you right. So when Sherry suggests, acting a little aloof at first, this may seem counterintuitive, but it works. Staying out of relationship mode for a while, bypasses our natural defenses, and it works. Not giving away your personal power by being too much of a pleaser works. Communicating succinctly, I like that one. Probably the most important lesson from this book is the importance of communication. A woman who calls a guy on his behavior, is showing several powerful things, she demonstrates higher value by not accepting bad behavior, she is not afraid to convey her feelings even if this might offend the guy, she is not timid and unassertive, she keeps the lines of communication honest, and open. You will win some and lose some by following the advice in this book. Following this advice too rigidly will not work. It is a matter of finding a balance, and using what works for you. Think of this book as training wheels. This book, is very good, and I probably should not recommend it but I do. The bit about faking the orgasm, some reviewers don't like. As Sherry is a stand up comedian, this piece is just supposed to be humorous. In reality, you are teaching the guy that is he is already good enough, whereas some improvement might be required. Some of the anecdotal advice is funny but extreme. The booty call guy left standing in the rain outside his apartment got his just desserts, but the red panties in the laundry tactic was too much. My personal opinion, is we men are not that smart at non verbal communication, so things need to be spelled out more. We also have a limited capacity for processing verbal information, in fact we go into safety shut down after about 30 seconds of talking. After that point, we just nod and grunt as if we are following along. I hope you find this review helpful, and if you do, please click yes.

A Witty Wake-up Call

This is a must read book for all those women who find themselves being treated like yesterdays meatloaf. You know, you'll take it only if you can't have anything better, or you may just say forget it and chuck into the garbage. The author really hits home when she talks about the male appetite for a Bitchy Woman. It's true they do get more respect. I shared this book some friends of mine both male and female and I can't get it back. They keep asking me, "do you mind if I let my friend check it out?" So I fiqured out what everyone is getting for Christmas this year. It truely is an instruction manual to transform a doormat to dreamgirl. It's not always about looks. Attitude is why you see some women getting what they want while little Miss Nicey is home alone thinking "maybe if I bake these cookies just right..." As a man I say GO FOR IT LADIES! Check out the book and use the information to change your way of thinking. Heck, I'm even going to apply some of the techniques to my relationship. I hope they post this review, because I really, really enjoyed this book.

stop chasing him, make him chase you!!

Sherry Argov is awesome! I've read a lot of relationship books and this is the first one that makes any real-life sense. Have you ever noticed how when you're not interested in a guy, you can't get him to leave you alone??! But the ones that you ARE into constantly play games.This book essentially teaches you how to reverse that pattern. The author shows you how to get the guy you want to chase after you, instead of the other way around. The best part is that it requires almost no effort on your part! This book really works. It was tough at first to follow the advice, because I kept wanting to try to please him. But we all know that men aren't like women, they don't appreciate all you do for them and they take it for granted. As soon as I stopped acting interested, he got his act together. Now he's calling all the time, taking me out to dinner, chasing after me . . . and I just sit back and enjoy it!