Behind nearly every adult who is accused of a crime, becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol, or who is severely mentally ill and acting out in public, there is usually at least one extremely stressed-out parent. This parent may initially react with the bad news of their adult child behaving badly with, "Oh no " followed by, "How can I help to fix this?" A very common third reaction is the thought, "Where did I go wrong--was it something I said or...