When the Man You Love Is Ill: Doing Your Best for Your Partner Without Losing Yourself

by Florence Isaacs and Dorree Lynn

Book Overview

When the Man You Love is Ill is a woman's guide to living with a partner facing a medical crisis or chronic illness. How do you understand the male psyche? How do you manage your own feelings of fear and guilt? How do you deal with the loss and keep the family stable? This book helps to heal the relationship with their partners or spouses.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1569242852
• ISBN13: 9781569242858
• Release Date: May 2007
• Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
• Length: 336 Pages
• Weight: 1.20 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

good suggestions

very nice book- i passed it along to the wife of one of my patients. thankyou

It's Got All the Answers

I strongly recommend this insightful guidebook for women whose men are seriously ill, whether the illness is temporary, chronic, or life-threatening. It is an all-encompassing resource that helps you deal with the overwhelming challenges, decisions, and responsibilities you may face. The compassionate advice and helpful tips cover every possible problem---from physical disabilities or troubling behavior changes, to navigating the medical establishment, holding the family together, keeping love alive, and even keeping financially afloat, while, at the same time, coping with your own needs. If you man gets sick, I think you will find amazing support in this empathetic book.

Practical Advice and Support For Caregivers

After learning that my husband has terminal lung cancer, I bought several books that I was hoping would help me cope with my world falling apart; this book was definitely the best of all of them! The book offers practical, no-nonsense advice, along with tremendous support and compassion. It is written in a way that almost seems to be a personal letter from the author. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is caring for a spouse or life partner during a very difficult time.

Not Just For Wives (Also for Husbands and Life Partners)

I love this book. Several things resonated with me intensely. Firstly, I was able to take a mini-test in "When The Man You Love Is Ill" to learn my coping style (I am a feeler by the way), and ways to maximize the help I was able to give and to seek help for my husband based upon this style. The first part of this book spoke about how to effectively give care and seek assistance, as well as how to be a champion for your spouse's care (it really is for husbands, wives, and life partners). The other brilliant thing about this book is the powerfulness of the second half and the notion of "Transformational Love". I'd never really heard of this term. But it explores the idea of how a spouse's disability or illness can forge a deeper bond never explored in complete "health". Some couples never are able to feel this kind of love and the book explores why and its very very interesting. I also loved the notion of self-care. I am no good to anyone, if I can't sleep or if I am overwhelmed with grief and anxiety. I learned the things that I can do to take care of me and maintain my own health. Buy this book today.

Common sense...just when you need it

This well thought out book will help anyone who has a loved that is going through a tough time. I found myself saying "I know that" but for whatever reason I wasn't doing "that" to help myself or my husband. I highly recommend this book for anyone in this situation