What No One Tells the Bride: Surviving the Wedding, Sex After the Honeymoon, Second Thoughts, Wedding Cake Freezer Burn, Becoming Your Mother, Scre

by Marg Stark

Book Overview

What No One Tells the Bride is the inside scoop--good and bad--on what it's really like being married. In these pages, journalist Marg Stark breaks the newlywed code of silence and exposes the profound adjustments brides often experience. Stark and 50 married women tell their stories--showing others how to handle turbulence on cloud nine--and reveal marital truths, such as:

You don't feel like a "Mrs." Sometimes you even dream about...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 078688262X
• ISBN13: 9780786882625
• Release Date: May 1998
• Publisher: Hachette Books
• Length: 320 Pages
• Weight: 0.85 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.6" x 8.3"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

Life saver!!

A friend loaned this to me when I got engaged, and I thought it would just be like any other wedding book - trying to make a profit off a bride's stress! But this book seriously saved my sanity a few times. It outlines everything a modern bride goes through emotionally, and in such a realistic and insightful way. The author is fantastic - not just her writing ability but her ability to reach the reader. It lets you know you're not alone when you have trouble adjusting to your new life,or your new role as "wife." I bought this book for a friend of mine who is recently engaged, and HIGHLY recommend it for any bride in your life.

Great read during my engagment

Although my wedding date is a few months off, this was a great read during the early and middle parts of my engagement. An easy read, it gave great advice, I especially loved the stories of other women dealing with the different issues that came up during their marriages like sacrifice, control, and sex. This book was a a comic relief. A lot of the stories make you laugh-out-loud (which during an engagement, can sometimes be a rarity with all the planning). Then, the moment you finish the book, your fiance will come out to the pool and say, "your wash is done and needs to go in the dryer." You know you shouldn't freak but you want to, so you look through the appendix and think, "ugh, I have a lot to work on"! Happy engagements to all. I highly recommend it.

Spead this book like wildfire

Don't wait until after the wedding to read this book. Read this book months before you even think about saying "I do". Maybe even give a copy to the groom-to-be. The most powerful message I took away from "What No One Tells The Bride" is that if you are not happy before you get married, you won't be happy after you get married. So, if you hope that the wedding will make everything better, it won't. Fix you, then get married J. Throughout this book, married women reveal the little truths about marriage that they had to learn the hard way. It's as if you're in a little room and all of your girlfriends are telling you what you need to know before you get married, all the dirty details and not so dirty details. Even though the title may seem as if it the information is all negative, it's not. Marriage can, and should be a wonderful thing. Once you put the unrealistic expectations behind you, you and your honey can work on creating a lasting marriage that works. I trust that any would-be wife will find "What No One Tells The Bride" a delightful gift and welcomed friend.

I LOVED this book!

I'm only a few months into my marriage, but have been feeling suffocated- even though we lived together for TWO YEARS prior to making it to the altar. I didn't expect to miss my single life so much and to go through an identity crisis. This book made me realize that my feelings are normal and that I'm not alone on an island. I love my husband dearly and have felt guilty for feeling so uneasy and this book has made me feel 100% better. I recommend this to new brides, anyone who relished single life prior to settling down, or anyone who was/is just plain nervous about being married. This book has affected my marriage for the better.

A Great Gift For All Brides and Newlyweds

I received this book as a gift before I got married almost two years ago and I have not seen anything quite like it since then. It is humor-filled and easy to read. A welcome distraction from the stress of planning a wedding. It is a great book for newly engaged or newly married women. When I got married, many of my friends had already taken the plunge. They all acted as if life was a fairytale and gave me no warning that my trip down the aisle would be anything but perfect and blissful. By reading this book I came to understand that weddings and marriage are just like anything else in life - there are bound to be some problems, but you can work through them and they don't have to ruin all the wonderful things about getting married. Understanding that made it much easier to deal with. This book demystifies the engagement and wedding and the early years of marriage. By reading this book I was comforted in knowing that I was not alone in some of my experiences. I never had any doubt that I wanted to marry my husband but reading this book was helpful because I was able to relax and let go of some of my anxiety about marriage. Many phenomena that were confusing to me were explained in this book in an easy to understand and humorous way. Marg also gives some great, simple and common-sense advice about beginning a marriage that everyone can use. My husband also found comfort in many of the book's revelations. The author's experience was as an independent, older bride, however, much of her advice and information is relevant to brides of all ages and backgrounds. Many younger brides (like me and most of my friends) who may be idealistic about weddings and marriage and have unrealistic expectations will be better prepared to deal with unexpected but inevitable problems they will face during this period in their life. The book will reassure them that what they are going through is normal, and will help them focus on the really important thing - their love for their fiance/husband and the lifelong relationship they are building together. I have been waiting to be able to buy this book for my few friends who have not yet gotten hitched. I am excited to be giving it as a gift this week.