What Men Really Want

by Herb Goldberg

Book Overview

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• Format: Mass Market Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0451169727
• ISBN13: 9780451169723
• Release Date: June 1991
• Publisher: Signet Book
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.30 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 4.2" x 6.8"

Customer Reviews

How men show their love and affection

I read this book back in the 80s, when it came out. The title is not sexist; it's more about how men are conditioned to show their love for their families. They show their love and concern by "doing for," as opposed to talking and openly nurturing as women are expected to do. It answered some questions for me as a daughter and wife. It's definitely worth the time spent in reading.As time has gone by, this book in some ways became a precursor to the "Men Are From Mars--Women Are From Venus" series of books which demonstrate how men and women think differently about life and love.

A must for any woman with a man in her life

Despite the provocative title this is not a manual on sexual preferences and/or techniques. It's a very well written guide to the realities and fallacies of relationships between men and women. More than anything it is a helpful digest of men's perspectives on life and relationships, of their experiences of socialization as children, and of the pressures to which they are subjected as adults, all of which impact their interactions with the significant women in their lives. Unlike Gray's Men are from Mars..., which often times loses one through "cute" sometimes patronizing and repetitious style (although a helpful book also), Dr. Goldberg describes more succinctly and clearly what men can realistically deliver emotionally in relationships. He also demonstrates how women's sometimes unrealistic and romantic expectations can frustrate men and increase their anxiety level at unpropitious times, and how the different life views and communication styles of the two genders can place even loving couples at odds with one another. Although I sometimes found myself a little on the defensive when reading the book, I also found that when I looked at things more from the male perspective--to the degree that I as a woman am able to do so--much that had occured in my failed attempts to relate to men in the past became clearer, and I could see what part I myself had played in the demise of those relationships. A useful book, and one I would suggest to anyone--man or woman--contemplating marriage or a commited relationship of any kind.

Wish I had had this a bit earlier!

This book is so incredible in the message it brings to women. And I thought I knew so much! What I knew is that what I had been doing in relationships just didn't work! This will be part of my resolve for new behavior the next time around. This book ought to be a primer in the school systems as well. When you are 45 and relearning how to be in a relationship, it will take a while to change! Excellent!

Essential reading for all females involved with males.

This book is scary. It tells women things we don't want to know. It could almost make you not want to love men any more, once you know what they really think and what they'd really be happy with. However, if you want to improve your relationship and communication with a man, especially an ambitious man....this is the book you have to read. I am a 48 year old woman, and I learned alot of hard truths by reading this little paperback. I am changing my own behavior drastically based on what it has to say, and I am seeing big positive results in my 15 year long relationship. Moreover, I'm totally shocked by how immediately my partner changes in response to my "new behavior"! I'd like to give a huge "Thank you, Sir!" to Herb Goldberg, for having the nerve to write this book!

A real eye opener.

*sigh* I wish I had read this two years ago. I could have saved myself and a man I was involved with until just recently from alot of grief. Many times, in reaction to what I perceived to be emotional abuse by him, I repeatedly accused him of being callous, cold, evil, inhuman, insensitive, shallow, superficial, unfeeling, etc. Before reading this book, I honestly believed I was his innocent victim and that none of the intimacy problems between him and I were my fault. Now, my part in the destruction of our relationship is very clear to me. I plan to send him a letter of apology, and I plan to try very hard not to repeat MY hurtful behavior in future relationships I have with men.