What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works

by Michael Gurian

Book Overview

Having studied how boys and girls develop differently, Michael Gurian turns his attention to adult men in this entertaining, informative, and groundbreaking book on the male brain. Following two decades of neurobiological research, What Could He Be Thinking? answers the questions women and the world are asking about husbands, fathers, boyfriends, and coworkers. Mixing neurobiology with Gurian's very readable style, anecdotes from everyday life, and...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0312311494
• ISBN13: 9780312311490
• Release Date: September 2004
• Publisher: St. Martins Press-3PL
• Length: 278 Pages
• Weight: 1.80 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

thank you, michael gurian

What a wonderful and useful book! I'm a single woman, between relationships, and I wish I had this book before I started dating. It helped me understand men and myself. JAH and a lot of the other reviewers have trashed this book, but it seems to me they are reading some other book. This book is so positive about both women and men, I recommend it to every woman. I especially liked how it dealt with bridge brain men and women. I'm a woman who often "thinks more like a man," and I say, thank you, Michael Gurian, for helping me understand myself.

What could he be thinking

This book is not P/C. But even Newsweek says men and women are different so it must be okay to read heretical books like this. If you are a feminist, or male in denial about what testosterone does to your brain when in utero, you will not enjoy the time reading this book. As a husband I am now at peace with myself on many issues, including why I can't ever load the dishwasher correctly. As a father I am now far more able to parent my teenage sons because I realize how we are the same. Further, as a result of my confidence from this book, and insights from "Every Mans Battle' (stoker and arterburn) I am intervening and helping shape my teeneage sons lives on on issues of sexuality, pornography and other behaviour traps that face them daily.As a husband I have better understanding of my wifes view of work, the home, and what she values in a elationship. There are countless communication and value styles, and day to day, head to head issues in our relationship where this book has helped me. This proves you are never too old, or too married to learn.This book is chock full of "aha's" as you realize why things work the way they do, either in a male to female or female to male manner. Here are a few of mine. Why I seem to go blank, look for a quick summary or resolution, or am unable to concentrate and get frustrated when discussing complex relationship topics after 30-45 minutes (women have more parts of their brains dedicated to speech and cache information more quickly). Why my wife can remember staggering deatils about the times she's been hurt or happy (its not because I'm stupid its because of how womens memory is structured). If you are a guy and thinking about reading this, buy it and quit wasting time.If you are a women in a "relationship" buy it for your man and tell him it is only one of three books you'll ever ask him to read, even if you have to use sex to get it read. You already know the chances are slim he'll never buy a book like this (self help books are like directions - you don't buy them and you don't ask for them).

Wish I had this book before I got married

I bought this book when my husband and I started having marital problems. He kept accusing me of not listening to him and I knew that wasn't true. I was listening to him I just wasn't getting it. As I read each chapter, I kept getting these enlightened moments. Ahhh....that is why he is like this. To know that some of it is biological helped me considerably in dealing with the communication issues. I now know that my needs conflict with his on a biological level and this makes him exceedingly uncomfortable. This has helped me improve my life and our marriage 100%. It may have actually saved my marriage. I have many friends who are dealing with the same issues with their husbands and I am going to buy them all this book for Christmas. If women who are planning to get married would read this book, they would have a better chance of marrying a secure, mature male and their prospect of having a long lasting marriage would improve. This book would also be good for any couple if they want to improve their marriage.