Understanding the Tin Man: Why So Many Men Avoid Intimacy

by William July II

Book Overview

Why are men so afraid of showing their feelings? What scares men about commitment?Blackboardbestselling author William July II tackles these age-old questions, revealing secrets that every woman wants to know about her man, and every man needs to know about himself. He explains how boys are conditioned to become emotionally closed off, leaving them incapable of sharing their feelings or participating fully in relationships--they are like the Tin Man...

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 038549663X
• ISBN13: 9780385496636
• Release Date: January 2000
• Publisher: Doubleday Books
• Length: 201 Pages
• Weight: 0.05 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 6.5" x 9.7"

Customer Reviews

Great for Tin men and the women who love them.

I got this book at a time that I was separated from my boyfriend. This book helped me understand why some men behave the way they do and why it is so hard for them to come to grips with themselves sometimes. Every woman and man should have a copy of this book,it is great! .

Praises

I can't begin to say how magnificent this book is. It touched the core of my spirit. I give it all praises. July has really opened up to women about men, giving them understanding and guidance when it comes to men and relationships with women. Very insightful: a realization I came to in my thirties. Women spend so much of their time, effort and energy on men, trying to change them, and make them understand us, but how can any success be achieved if we as women do not understand manhood. It is by far the best book, and the best book for the spirit to tap into a man's emotions, his spirit. Trust me, if you read the info, and learn from it, it will help the woman understand the man, and herself. I give it ten stars.

Captivating!

I couldn't put the book down! it was so informative and on point. I would highly reccomended this book to both men and women. I particularly liked the chapter entitled "Tin Speak" Hmmm.. so that's what it's called (smile)Thanx W.J for another great book keep up the good work.. :-)

The ultimate follow-up to "Brothers, Lust, and Love."

Mr. July picks up in "Understanding the Tin Man," where he so insightfully left off in "Brothers, Lust, and Love." I am definitely impressed with the author and his latest work. It is evident that Mr. July has personally experienced that of which he writes. He reveals the most intimate details of how and why so many men avoid intimacy, with the opportunity for self checks and "Things to Think About" at the end of each chapter. He also provides the opportunity for both sexes to take a closer look at their significant other and themselves. Mr. July's manner and approach with the two are down to earth and encouraging. His style of writing leaves the impression of having shared an intimate conversation and/or discussion with one's closest friend... as in no demands as to what one should do, but leaving the door open for positive and new realizations about one's self and way of being."Understanding the Tin Man" is a refreshing read. It encourages and promotes a realistic understanding of the various "Tin" issues between the sexes. Though the title and subheading suggest a read geared toward women, the book is a definite must read for men too. It includes helpful references and positive messages for them throughout, and offers ideal ways to better or begin to make self-imposed changes that encourage a stronger love of self, family, and friends. This book is definitely a "five" star, plus.

The Ultimate Follow-Up to "Brothers, Lust, and Love"...

Mr. July picks up in "Understanding the Tin Man," where he so insightfully left off in "Brothers, Lust, and Love." I am definitely impressed with the author and his latest work. It is evident that Mr. July has personally experienced that of which he writes. He reveals the most intimate details of how and why so many men avoid intimacy, with the opportunity for self checks and "Things to Think About" at the end of each chapter. He also provides the opportunity for both sexes to take a closer look at their significant other and themselves. Mr. July's manner and approach with the two is down to earth and encouraging. His style of writing leaves the impression of having shared an intimate conversation and/or discussion with one's closest friend... as in no demands as to what one should do, but leaving the door open for positive and new realizations about one's self and way of being."Understanding the Tin Man" is a refreshing read. It encourages and promotes a realistic understanding of the various "Tin" issues between the sexes. Though the title and sub-heading suggests a read geared toward females, the book is a definite must read for men. It includes helpful references and positive messages for them throughout, and offers ideal ways to better or begin to make self-imposed changes that encourage a stronger love of self, family, and friends. Enjoy the read!