Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make

by Sherrie Eldridge and Fred A. Hartley

Book Overview

Adoptees working through the issues surrounding their birth can face grief, anger, and questions about their identity. Drawing on the stories of more than 70 adoptees, Sherrie Eldridge shows adoptees... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1576833070
• ISBN13: 9781576833070
• Release Date: April 2003
• Publisher: Pinon Press
• Length: 287 Pages
• Weight: 1.13 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.0" x 5.9" x 8.7"

Customer Reviews

ABSOLUTE MUST READ IF AN ADOPTEE

SHERRIE, THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEAUTIFUL BOOK, Twenty Life Tansforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make. I cannot express enough my gratitude to you. I am an Adult Adoptee from Hong Kong, and was abandoned on the street and lived in an orphanage for the first 2 years of my life. I was very lucky to be adopted into the US by my Caucasian American parents, whom I love very deeply. Nonetheless, the repressed pain of abandonement and rejection has recently surfaced. I had bought other books on adoption, but they were so clinical and sterile, I lost interest in them. I never finished reading those books. But Sherrie's book IS AMAZING. I could not put it down!!! It is very well written, deeply personal and very emotional. I needed to read EVERY WORD she WROTE. When she expressed her thoughts and feelings, she articulated unspoken thoughts I had always felt, but never could define. She has alot of clinical information in her book, which is important for me, since I am a Ph.D. student in Neurophysiology. Being trained as a scientist, I do need to have studies to back up hypothesis or suppositions. Sherrie's book has helped me alot to grieve and cry. Her book was hard for me to get through, b/c it triggered alot of violent volcanic emotions that had been deeply repressed. But I know that grieving and forgiveness is the key to true freedom. It is just very hard work to do. But once done, I felt 10 lbs lighter and 10 years younger!! Sherrie's book is leading us to our divinity, wholeness, self-healing, and self-awareness... which is a painful but exhilarating journey. Sherrie does make reference to the Bible and Christianity to guide her. Though, I am an SGI-USA Buddhist and chant Nam Myoho Renge Kyo as my form of prayer to the Universal Power, her book was still very helpful to me. Sherrie also lists many helpful Adoptee organizations in the Appendix of her book. I hope to join an Adult Adoptee Support Group to continue my journey to wholeness. Sherrie's book is a powerful guiding light in this deeply mis-understood topic of the pain that Adult Adoptees endure. Sherrie speaks for all of us in her book, and this book has saved my life. If you want answers, comfort, empathy, sympathy, love, support, healing, and hope in dealing with being an Adoptee, GET THIS BOOK!!! YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY!!!

Most helpful adoption book I have ever read

I read this book after locating my birthparents. I wish I read it before. It was written in a way that made me feel like I knew the author and she was relating my own personal feelings and thoughts. I probably would have found my family many years earlier had I been given the support and validation and guidance that this book gave to me. This is a book for adoptive parents to read as it helps one understand the feelings that often arent validated by the world but are so real to us. It also can help one to decide when and if a search is right for them. I bought this book for my 2 friends who are adoptive parents and for 3 of my friends who are adopted themselves. I highly recommend it to anyone in the adoption triad.

A MUST Read !!

As the father of three sibling adoptees, I am always seeking information to understand the struggles my children face, and to help them overcome those hurdles.In my opinion, this book by Sherrie Eldridge is simply the ** #1 MUST READ** on the topic of adoption. It is for anyone who wants to understand the many issues associated with adoption, and rather than being a "pity parade" tome, specifically disclaims that as a positive solution and offers helpful "move forward" techniques for each issue tackled.I particularly recommend it for adoptees who are have difficulty in facing issues that arise throughlut ones life as a result of adoption.

Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make

Sherrie uses her own experiences as an adioptee to lead her readers to an understanding of typical adoptee experiences. The book is enlightening to all members of the adoption triad, as well as professionals, family and friends. While not every adoptee may experience all the reactions, it is important to take note of the possibilities.The feeling of loss of control over one's life is a common issue. The question of why birth mom "didn't keep me" to how did I get these adoptive parents both deal with control, or lack of it. The natural reaction is to either feel powerless or to look elsewhere for power. Adotive parents willing to discuss and listen are one of the best supports an adoptee can have and what every adoptee deserves.

A LIGHT FOR ADOPTEES!!!

Hi Sherrie, I am currently reading your book, "Twenty Life-Transforming Choices" and it is changing my life! I am an adoptee in Albuquerque, NM, am almost 43 years old and am just discovering that much of my life's struggles have been due to my loss at birth. Thank you! Also, thank you for the Christian aspect of this in your book. There is so much psychology surrounding this issue, it is sometimes difficult to know how God feels about it all.