I grew up believing self-love was a bad thing. It was the belief of the Christian church I was raised in, I think. But whether that was so or not, my parents had been raised in dysfunctional families, and had no sense of self-worth anyway. A vague sense of uneasiness surrounded the second and third decades of my life. I married at 28, became a mother just before turning 30, was separated within the year, divorced and enrolled in grad school by 35...