The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again

by Tina B. Tessina and Pamela Nettleton

Book Overview

For many varied reasons, a vast numbers of adults may find themselves single. Maybe they've postponed marriage to concentrate on a career. Perhaps they find themselves alone after divorce or the breakup of a long-term relationship. Or maybe their reaching out again after the death of their spouse. But the one thing they have in common is questions, questions, and more questions about just how to reenter the dating scene. The Unofficial Guide to Dating,...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0028624548
• ISBN13: 9780028624549
• Release Date: January 1999
• Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
• Length: 380 Pages
• Weight: 1.05 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.2" x 5.2" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

Awesome Book, Great Advice, Easy Reading!!!

If you've been away from the dating scene, divorce, dumped on, separated... you name it then this is the book that you'll want. I had applied most of the lessons that were highlighted in the book and it total changes my approach and strategies to dating. Now, my friends are using the same book and I could be any happier with my successes =-)

The Unofficial Guide To Dating Again

Fear and loneliness lead people to live quite negative lives. These emotions hold back the emotional growth of a person, no matter what their age. Life is a short time frame given to us to enjoy creation. One needs to take full advantage of this situation. There is a fear of change, of going taken outside one's comfort zone. The unknown always conjures up images based on myth rather than fact. Keeping an open mind about change will lead to an enrichment of the human experience.Humans are a sociable race. They crave the company of others of their kind. It is this part of the human condition that makes us all vulnerable.Being reliant on another starts from the time of conception. Once out of the womb this reliance can last up to twenty years or more. So the need to fit in and be accepted by other humans is an integral part of our being.Dating is part of the process we use to seek acceptance both as a companion, friend, lover and soul mate. One must approach this process with caution. Letting romantic notions get in the way of common sense can lead to untold disasters.During the teen phase of people's lives, life is one great adventure. New ideas and feelings seek one's attention. Yet teenagers have the need for acceptance by others within their group.To want acceptance on equal terms does not diminish with age. The environment in which it occurs will change through life's journey. This can challenge a person's belief in themselves and their ability to makes friends.The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again is an excellent book dealing with the highs and lows of getting out and meeting new people. Not all of those people we meet in our society make an ideal partner. There are seedy people who prey on others weaknesses.For those people wanting to take the plunge and get back into dating, this book is a must. It covers all of what one needs to know, to protect yourself and your family when meeting new companions. It is a book that I highly recommend.

The perfect gift for a friend who hasn't a clue

I was looking for some "official" advice for a friend of ours (hi, Jeff!) who is seeking a new partner but whose confidence has been badly shattered by what he thinks of as "failures" in his love life. Tessina's book says everything I've been trying to tell him and more: how to start over, keeping your expectations reasonable, how important it is to work out the old baggage BEFORE you start a new relationship, etc. Plus such priceless insight as the impossibility of truly changing another person all by yourself. The section on modern dating etiquette could be quite helpful, too, to anyone who's been out of circulation for some time. Very sane, comforting, clear, and, jargon-free. (Susan K. Perry, author of WRITING IN FLOW)

Excellent, helpful

After scanning plenty of books on this and related subjects, it was a relief to find this one. She speaks directly to the topic of returning to the world of dating after a substantial loss in one's life. Free of jargon, babble, and exclamation points, it goes right to the major points to consider when re-entering the world of singles. Invaluable. Concrete, well-laid out, speaks to my issues and maybe to yours.