The Shy Single: A Bold Guide to Dating for the Less-than-Bold Dater

by Sandra J. Gordon and Bonnie Jacobson

Book Overview

Nearly 50 percent of adults in the United States describe themselves as chronically shy, and an even larger number are single. These numbers prove what we already know: There are a lot of us sitting... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1579548695
• ISBN13: 9781579548698
• Release Date: June 2004
• Publisher: Harmony/Rodale
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.75 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.9" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

From shyness to self-confidence

I recommend this book because it provides sound advices for shy people. It's easier to make an impression when you have exciting things to talk about and share. To feel more knowledgeable and confident about everyday's life, and be more interesting when meeting others (dates, work, or friends' gathering) I joined services like [...] Breaking the barrier of silence and shyness opens doors to infinite possibilities.

Help for the shy at heart

The reviews of this book are mixed but I can say it helped me. I have been much more in control of my dating life and I have re-read it several times. Would highly recommend reading this book for anyone who doesn't feel in control of their love life. It feels good to be bold!

Great guide for personalizing your dating strategy

I found this book really helpful for personalizing my dating strategies. I wanted to put myself out there without feeling vulnerable or awkward and this book helped me develop some strategies that feel doable. I now go out two to three times and week and if anything, I'm no longer sitting in my apartment, waiting for the world to come to me. It's empowering.

Darn Good!

I'll preface this with a short bio: I am average/handsome, 5 foot 11 inches, 35 years old, not overweight...and have been 'alone' for well over 3 to 5 years now. A classic "Shy Guy." This is a great book for those of us "Shys" needing a step by step plan to come out of the shell. I just finished the book, and the insights and suggestions made by the author are realistic and do-able. This is not a book you read once then suddenly your cured. Sorry people, no such thing. It is going to take work. Just don't give up, and don't do this half-heartedly, effort will be rewarded. I know that I'll be re-reading, leafing through, and referencing different parts of this book as I use this and other aides to overcome my shyness. I'll be writing recommendations on other self help books that have been added to my library, and added to my goal of overcoming shyness, in the near future. (Written 12/2004)

Helpful for breaking through dating anxiety

I gave this book to a self-described "shy" good friend, who just never got out, even though he really wanted to meet someone. I was completely amazed. He's dating someone special now. I asked him if it was a coincidence. He said, no--that, in fact, THE SHY SINGLE, really helped him manage his shyness. The book gives concrete tips for managing shyness every step along the way, when you first meet someone, after you've been chatting awhile, and down the line, when you're in a real relationship. I recommend this book to anyone who is shy, and can't get a date. My friend is completely changed. It took him about three months to put the tips into practice, but it paid off. The woman he met is great, and I can tell that he's really happy.