The Shadow Side of Intimate Relationships: What's Going on Behind the Scenes

by Naomi Mosley and Doug Moseley

Many self-help relationship books tend to focus on an idealized vision of marriages and intimate relationships. Positive attitudes are very important in intimate relationships AND positivity alone is... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1880823225
• ISBN13: 9781880823224
• Release Date: June 2000
• Publisher: Moseley Method
• Length: 296 Pages
• Weight: 0.97 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.6" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

Read if you are ready!

This is an absolutely excellent book about what is truly going on in relationships! The author's will probably tell you what you don't want to hear about yourself, but if you are ready to face it, this book will take you to another life. This book makes us face how our own insecurities and inferiorities are having a destructive influence on our relationships. It forces us to change for the better. If you like this book, you will also like "Rhythm, Relationships, and Transcendence" by Toru Sato. It is a great book on a similar topic but explained from a different perspective. I recommend both of them highly!

No light possible without the shadow...

What a timely book! It exposes the reality of human connection over the fantasy. And how long can the fantasy last? Powerful truth for those looking to last...as couples and as individuals in our rough and tumble world...

Essential for anyone who wants to sustain a relationship

This is an essential book for anyone who wants to sustain an intimate relationship over a long period of time. How many of us in a relationship feel we already know what the other person is thinking or feeling? Conversation becomes a series of set pieces. The Shadow Side of Intimate Relationships explains in jargon-free prose why and how we all get trapped in a particular communication paradigm. Moreover it provides the tools for exploring ways to break free of those traps, both in the way we speak to our intimate partner and the way in which we interact with each other. Doug and Naomi Moseley focus on what each of us as an individual can do for ourselves to understand why we act and react the way we do. These tools can then be applied as instruments to change our individual behavior. For me this book was like a bolt of lightning, illuminating and energizing. It has my highest recommendation.

Refreshing, truthful look at stale patterns with partners

This book is a wonderful, wonderful expose of the stale, stuck patterns that we often get locked into in our intimate relationships.....the Moseleys have done a brillant job of unmasking the patterns that keep us locked in power struggles and out of the intimacy that we desire. And they give ways to break out of these destructive patterns and move forward in positive ways. And they give historical perspectives on how these patterns began and why they are so hard to spot. For anyone on a journey of self awareness, this is a must read.... insightful, truthful and brillant.