How do you get where you want to go? Only three things determine whether we get anywhere in life: someone observes us, forms an opinion about us, and decides to give us an opportunity...or not. No matter what the context--in business, the church, marriage, parenting, or friendships--we are often assessed in the blink of an eye, and we do the same thing with others. That quick observation, which we seldom stop to analyze, causes us...