The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work

by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider

Book Overview

The authors of the bestselling The Rules* and The Rules* II offer relationship advice for women who have the ring and want to create the most satisfying and fulfilling marriage possible.

• Format: Mass Market Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0446610860
• ISBN13: 9780446610865
• Release Date: April 2002
• Publisher: Warner Books (NY)
• Length: 272 Pages
• Weight: 0.33 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 4.2" x 6.8"

Customer Reviews

REAL MEN love Rules Girls!!!

I remember my Mother making a statement to me years ago, that I thought was RIDICULOUS! It was "Find a man that loves you more than you could ever LOVE HIM!" Crazy? right? NO!!! As an adult I figured out what she was trying to convey...We, as women have to learn how to love OURSELVES first, and that way, we will think too highly of ourselves, to accept "inferior" treatment by men. Thus...this is the premise for this book, as well as all the other "Rules" books. Women who VALUE themselves, and their time,set boundaries, and live by them, and either the man will accept them, or leave! I find this book, as well as the others, to be just basic, common sense! Trust me, I bought into the "It's the 90's" mantra men would throw at me, and call them, at their request, be too nice,too available, then scratch my head when I would see them happily start dating a women we all knew was "difficult". I do not now believe these ladies were difficult, rather they let the guy know straight up, they were not pushovers,and strangely,the guys seemed to LOVE it!!! I decided to start doing the Rules, as written, and met and married a teriffic guy, who treats me like I am a precious jewel, and you know what? I am....NO! We all are precious jewels girls!!!!! Why settle for less? I enjoyed this book, and have applied not all, but most of the Rules,and just celebrated 6 happy years of marriage....Remember......If you do not value and love YOURSELF, why should he?! It is up to the woman to set the standards....what we will and will not tolerate...and trust me....REAL MEN, WILL appreciate us for it!!! Oh,yes....Alot of gals I knew thought the Rules were foolish....Odd, these are the same ones who have not had a decent relationship in YEARS!!!!!

Perfect Book for Loving Wives!!!!

For the most part, the first two books in this series represents exactly how a single, self respecting female should carry herself in and out of a relationship aside from always putting God first. Everything about the way most men think and behave point to the fact that they love a challenge and have a natural desire and need to be dominate in life, which is why women that come too easy cannot satisfy them completely. It's also why they will continue to pursue a Rules Girl and eventually propose to her. Essentially they want to win! With winning though, comes the spoils of victory. That's where the rules for marriage comes in! My husband feels blessed to have me as his queen. So many women wanted him, a lot of them very pretty, that at times I wasn't sure that it was meant to be. But I followed the rules (not perfectly) and carried myself like a creature unlike any other and he dispensed with all the women that used to fall all over him and asked for my hand. Most of the things that this book teaches about marriage were already instilled in me so these rules are a lot easier for me to follow than most, but they work and work well at that. Don't believe for one second that the loving husband and king that you won by carrying yourself like a queen and being hard to get will all of a sudden start walking all over you when you follow these rules. He will appreciate you, recognize you, and reciprocate your love fully. Trust me he will! And if your guy isn't a rules husband, and was never very loving to begin with (you won him aside from breaking most if not all of the rules) I still believe that if you follow the authors' advice in this book you will win him over. This book (though it does it in a not so pleasant manner) basically teaches you to show unconditional love and respect to your husband without strings. And like the Good Book says, love never fails. The problem is that most people, because of selfishness have never learned to love unconditionally. They give self seeking love which isn't love at all. I follow theses rules. I support and nurture my husband's needs as a man, a champion and a king, and I know that these above all are the reasons that he loves me, works to please me, takes care of me, provides for me and protects me, and I rest assured that if I continue to do my part (which is where one author admits to stumbling) that he always will. We both win!

Great honest advice for making your relationship work

These authors have once again hit the mark with their fantastic advice on how to handle yourself in a relationship. I find their advice so helpful in my own relationship. It is just truely amazing. They have opened my eyes to a new way of thinking that honestly works for me and works on my partner! Thank you two so much for another wonderful book on relationships. Their words have truly changed my life for the better!

Give them a break!

True, one of these two ladies is not the "happily married" she once made herself out to be. But in the book it is even admitted that some marriages are not meant to work and there are chapters included on divorcing with dignity. Which Ms. Schneider is obviously not being allowed to do because people insist on making her private life public. This is an ADVICE book - you can follow it or not - and a pretty helpful one at that. I am a tried and true rules girl, and have been eagerly awaiting the release of this book. It is exactly what it says it is - a book of rules you can follow or not follow. And look what happens if you don't follow them! Ms. Schneider admits lapsing on some of the rules led to her divorce!

I Love the Rules

I HAVE TO SAY.....I LOVE THE RULES. I KNOW THAT EVERYONE ELSE DOESN'T LIKE TO ADMIT IT...BUT I WILL FOR MYSELF AND FOR MY FRIENDS. I AM MARRIED AND ALWAYS LIKED THE RULES BUT THIS MARRIAGE BOOK HAS ABSOLUTELY BLOWN ME AWAY. I HAVE A WONDERFUL HUSBAND...BUT SOMETIMES HE CAN BE DIFFICULT. NOW I HAVE LEARNED THAT IF I LET HIM WIN, ACT AS IF WE ARE A TEAM, SAY WHAT I MEAN BUT NOT SAY IT MEANLY....I FEEL AS IF THIS BOOK GIVES ME SUPPORT FOR WHAT I SHOULD DO AND DON'T ALWAYS WANT TO DO. I HAVE TRIED IT THIS WHOLE WEEK AND HAVE ALREADY HAD UNBELIABLE RESULTS. THIS BOOK MAKES ME FEEL GREAT. MY FRIEND RECOMMENDED IT TO ME AND I THANK HER , AND ELLEN AND SHERRIE. AND ELLEN, YOU GO GIRL..... I HOPE YOU GET BACK WITH YOUR HUBBY!