The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection: Coping with Narcissists

by Rokelle Lerner

Book Overview

In her latest book, relationship expert Rokelle Lerner, tackles the innerworkings of narcissism and offers compassionate and realistic advice for surviving a relationship with those afflicted with this personality disorder. A Narcissist can make life exhilaratingly exciting one minute, and shear hell the next. A narcissist has no qualms about taking another's money, love, admiration, body or soul to satisfy their unquenchable hunger. They are not inherently evil, but unfortunately their wounds compel them to act in ways that are sometimes unconscionable, damaging, and ultimately tragic. Whether a mother-in-law, friend, coworker or boss, sometimes it's impossible to avoid narcissists, so instead of being miserable or taken advantage of, Rokelle Lerner shares her insights on the dynamics behind this personality disorder to give readers the tools to cope with narcissists, including: Learning to see narcissists as they see themselves Creating defense factors to ward them off Maintaining a balanced relationship based on mutual love, not one-sided narcissism

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 075730768X
• ISBN13: 9780757307683
• Release Date: October 2008
• Publisher: Health Communications
• Length: 274 Pages
• Weight: 0.68 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.4" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

excellent material

Found the book to be very relevant and correct. It has many useful lists and tools for helping with next steps and validating current concerns. The author obviously has "practiced" and experienced her information.

clear, validating and useful

This is a very helpful book for anyone trying to understand the depth of the effects of living/working with narcissists. It accurately and often dramatically describes the intensity of struggling for selfhood in the face of narcissists, and gives clear tips on how to manage to hang on to your self. Informative and clear, but not dry or pedantic- this is a real world guide for keeping your sanity in the face of very challenging people.

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As a psychologist in private practice for over 25 years I have found Rokelle Lerners' book very helpful. Her style is easy to read and understand for therapists as well as clients. A must read for anyone who deals with narcissists!

the object of my affection is in my reflection: coping with Narcissists

Great book that gives clear insight into the mind of a narcissist. Most people don't know how hurtful it is to be in a relationship with someone who is self-centered. Understanding this mindset teaches the reader how to spot this personality trait at work and in your personal life. It helps you set appropriate boundaries to avoid further conflict because these are difficult people to deal with and it teaches how to avoid antagonizing a narcissist at work or at home.

Pulls Essential Information Together

Having finally left a man with Narcissistic Personality Disorder after twenty LONG years of emotional abuse, I've lived and learned the necessity of educating oneself on this disorder in order to cope. Some books are too clinical, some are too trite. This book is a summary of all the essentials one needs in recognizing the narcissist in a personal relationship or in the workplace. It's precisely on point in identifying their tactics and manipulations and also the impact of their behavior on their victims, and they leave victims everywhere, from the home to the office. If you think you are dealing with a narcissist and need a primer, this book is an easy read summarizing the clinical studies of the experts. If you need to hear the words and see the reasons why narcissists don't change, you will find them in this book.