The Modern Mom's Guide to Dads: Ten Secrets Your Husband Won't Tell You

by Jesse J. Rutherford and Hogan Hilling

This 'parenting relationship' book is based on the authors' experiences in leading more than 2,000 workshops with new and expectant dads to discuss parenting in a non-threatening environment. In it Hogan Hilling and Jesse Jayne Rutherford offer thoughtful insights into what makes dads behave the way they do. The Modern Mom's Guide to Dads"" draws on what Hilling has learned from working with dads and moms for more than fifteen years. He explains to...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1581826060
• ISBN13: 9781581826067
• Release Date: October 2007
• Publisher: Cumberland House Publishing
• Length: 191 Pages
• Weight: 0.48 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.3" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

Balanced Advice for Moms and Dads

The Modern Mom's Guide to Dad: Ten Secrets Your Husbands Won't Tell You As a psychotherapist who works with couples, I know what "baby shock" is, and the difficulties even good marriages have when the first baby arrives. Hogan's book is the perfect solution. It's a readable, down-to earth guide for both moms and dads that covers, frankly and directly, all the major issues parents have. I loved the Hogan's Slogans, like "Love isn't solid -- It's more like clay than a rock" and the way he uses them to teach couples how to keep their intimate connection going while dealing with all the issues of parenting. The book has frank discussions of sexual issues, in-law issues, parental roles, and most of all, the differences in the way men and women view and approach parenting. I'm going to recommend it to my son and his pregnant wife, and to all my clients in the same situation. Bravo, Hogan! A great read.

Excellent read for new, and not so new, parents alike!

Balanced by his co-author, Jesse Jayne Rutherford, who offers the female perspective in each of the ten chapters, The Modern Mom's Guide to Dads handles many topics such as how society shapes a man's self-understanding and what kinds of pressure they're really under. They work more once baby arrives on the scene not because they're trying to get away from us (although those Monday morning door-rushes have me a bit skeptical -- I don't know. My husband really loves his job), but because they're trying to provide for us. It's an eye-opening book in many ways. New dads struggle with guilt, negative self-talk and confusion as much as women do. We're just more vocal about it and it seems socially appropriate for women to talk about their struggles. How many talk shows have female moderators? Very few, other than perhaps Dr. Phil, really get at the heart of people. Most men have not learned how to express themselves around these issues. For the first time, there's hope. Hogan Hilling, founder of Proud Dads, Inc., has provided an outlet for them to reveal what they're truly thinking in a safe, nonjudgemental environment. Hogan has been offering parenting workshops and new dad seminars in area hospitals since 1992. His approach is straight-forward and extremely helpful for anyone, mom or dad, struggling with their roles as a new parent. He admits many people might not find his role as a stay-at-home dad (for fifteen years!) to be 'manly' in the traditional sense. Thank goodness! How else could there be progress without a man stepping out of the corporate box to stand up for what he believes in? It turns out many more dads, regardless of race, creed, religious or socio-economic status, believe the same thing. You don't have to be a Superdad or Supermom to do the right thing. In case you hadn't heard, there's no such thing. A truly wonderful book full of surprises that will make you be kinder to your husband and see things his way ...for once! Christine Louise Hohlbaum, author of Diary of a Mother: Parenting Stories and Other Stuff and Sahm I Am: Tales of a Stay-at-Home Mom in Europe, lives near Munich with her husband and two children.