The Modern Lover: A Playbook for Suitors, Spouses & Ringless Carousers

by Phineas Mollod and Jason Tesauro

Having presented the definitive portrait of the enlightened man in The Modern Gentleman, Phineas Mollod and Jason Tesauro explore amour and temptation in this rollicking sequel. The authors chart the... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1580086012
• ISBN13: 9781580086011
• Release Date: October 2004
• Publisher: Ten Speed Press
• Length: 307 Pages
• Weight: 0.60 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.3" x 7.1"

Customer Reviews

Gentler and Better than Before

This one was even better and wittier than the original Modern Gentlemen text. Very witty and useful at the same time. One of those books you can read several times over like a funny reference book. I enoyed it so much I purchased 19Great copies for my officemates. Good job, Gentlemen.

Men who know Women

Finally, there are men on the relationship scene who can talk about the ins and outs of more than just the ol' in-n-out. I've never read anything so meaningful--and, frankly, hysterical--on P'Whipped partners or Living in Sin. These guys skip the usual crap on playiing games in romance and get right down to the foundations and funnies of love's nuances. The chapter on weddings is absolutely the best thing written on modern nuptials and without a doubt captures all that's wrong with by-the-book, cookie-cutter weddings that most everyone falls victim to without Bohemian sensibilities or matured tastes to mitigate parental influence. The writing is exceptional. In fact, I first read about the authors in Writer's Digest. As a married woman and mother, I especially appreciate the tips on long-term love that you'll never find in some Idiot's Guide to a Happy Marriage or one of those sappy fall-in-love-every-day books. They even got the childbirth parts dead on. Metrosexuals are all the rage, but who knew MetroDads were in vogue?? Way to go. Ladies, these men have learned something and they'll tell the other boys what to do with a spoonful of humor that makes the medicine go down.

witty and enlightening

The authors of The Modern Gentleman have penned another great book for the ever (hopefully) evolving man. The Modern Lover offers insight into the male psyche as well as copious advice and behavorial guidelines. There are plenty of trite "gift books" that find a permanent home wedged behind the toilet and the wall, for occasional one-liners and "how to's"; not very helpful. It wasn't until The Modern Gentleman was published that I finally found a book with some meat in it, something I could offer to my up and coming brother that would truly help him polish his social and cultural skills. The Modern Lover is the perfect follow up. Having covered the basics of dating in the first book, TML digs deeper into the complexities of a maturing relationship, starting with how to recognize when the chemistry is there. (I think the authors presume a certain level of intelligence among their readers, and honestly ladies, isn't that what you want in a man? For the beau with a growing intellect there is plenty of inspriration to enlighten oneself.) As a married woman, I really appreciate the section on Toys and Tolerances. It offers some fun and naughty suggestions for adding some spice to the bedroom, in turn strenghtening the marital bond, which the authors cleverly refer to as the "We Cycle". As a mother, one of my favorite sections is New Dad. Tesauro and Mollod offer very honest info on what the "First 100 Days" are like and how to be sensitive to the new mother's needs while taking care of himself. It's a scary but managable time and great that a (prospective) father can get some straightforward insight from another man. All in all, I loved this book and think it's just as good a read for women as it is for men. The authors cover a lot of topics, so many different types of relationships and inspire the reader to be a more "Evolved Bachelor", all the while maintaining his personal style. The charts, graphs and illustrations are fun too.

Modern Times call for Modern Lovers

When I saw in Newsweek that Tesauro and Mollod had come out with a new book I went right out to the bookstore. I own their first book, The Modern Gentleman, and it continues to provide a manner pick-me-up years later, so I couldn't wait to pick The Modern Lover. In their new book, the authors pick up where they left off. Dating, wooing and filling your head with jazz and literature and a touch of vice was handled in the first book, now this is the stuff you need to know now that you've landed a semi-serious mate. They start with a witty description of "One-Night Stands" - everything from the memorable ones to those better left out of the memory box. They cover the ins and outs of Valentine's Day and dating someone out of your age bracket. They also touch on the ever enjoyable phrase p-whipped - the syndrome when one is so infatuated with a lover that you sacrifice your own wants and needs leading even your best friends to mock you. As the book evolves, so does the relationship as they delve into more serious matters like living in sin, infidelity and a night on the couch. Througout the book they use similar stimulating graphics like those in the Modern Gentleman as in the section on compatability - determining if the person you are with is really the right one for you. They then touch on proposals, engagements, weddings and they even have a section for ringless carousers - those in a committed relationship who never legalize it. Thrown in are the original sections akin to the Modern Gentleman--Daddy Detox, The Brady Bunch Factor, The Red House, not to mention a list of essential modern cookbooks--I have already dogeared that page for future reference. The last three chapters are dedicated to being a good partner, in the house and out of the house - from lights and darks to green thumb, who doesn't like a guy who can do the laundry and plant bulbs all in the same day. The book even has a list of all the appropriate anniversary gifts to give your wife - who could really keep track of all of those without it, and one-night stands is capped off with two sections on being a New Dad. They make even the mundane, exciting: simply the best and most scathingly funny material on Inlaws (and Outlaws), Guest Lists, Aphrodisiacs. This book fits in every room: the coffee table, nightstand, gentleman's briefcase, lady's handbag, and required reading for every serious suitor, hubby, wife, and consort. And, it fits many moods, whether you want advice (practical and long-range), good writing, or just a laugh. Heartily recommended.

The antidote for religious schooling

Somebody once told me that the most important sex organ is the brain. Read this book and improve your most important sex organ by at least a few inches. Sister Mary Frances would have smacked you upside the head as she confiscated this book from you. But she would have left the convent once she flipped through the pages and saw what she was missing. Let's face it. You probably have more to learn about love. This book encourages you to take an honest look at your past so that you can be the lover you were born to be. The world needs more love. Are you ready to do your part? If so, buy this book, get with the program, and put the Viagra back on the shelf.