The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

by Miguel Ruiz

Book Overview

In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships. The Mastery of Love includes:

- Why "domestication" and the "image of perfection" lead to self-rejection
- The war of control that slowly destroys most relationships
- Why we hunt for love in others, and how to capture the love inside us
- How to finally accept and forgive ourselves and others

"Happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love. When you are aware that no one else can make you happy, and that happiness is the result of your love, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltec: the Mastery of Love." -- don Miguel Ruiz

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1878424424
• ISBN13: 9781878424426
• Release Date: March 1999
• Publisher: Amber-Allen Publishing
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.54 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.0" x 7.2"

Customer Reviews

Nothing new, interesting, or helpful

I really wanted to like this book. I read a little more than half of it before I gave up. I was hoping for some guidance on having deeper and more meaningful relationships and insight on how to be a generally kinder and more loving person. There is some vaguely useful advice about loving others by loving yourself and not taking personally how others treat you, but nothing I hadn't heard before, and no guidance on how to get to that place. Maybe the second half of the book is better, but I can't see wasting any more of my time to find out. At least it's a quick read.

Simplicity is key. Loved this book.

Straightforward.

Amazing book

Reading this book was therapeutic for me. It taught me to be empathetic towards others when it came to relationships and the way people love. We often see portrayals of love being materialistic and this books opens your mind about what love is and why we love the way we love.

Self Love

This book helps you evolve into a better you by mastering self love.

How to Love yourself and create Heaven on earth......

I read this book recently (having read Don Miguel's first book The Four Agreements) and together they have empowered me and brought a lot of positive changes in my life. The Toltec wisdom that he teach in these books are so simple yet incredibly profound and powerful. I am so glad that i came across these books and made the decision to read them. I am a Tibetan and I have read many Buddhist books over the years but this is something I have never felt before. It's almost as if the words are imbued with this power and loving-energy. This book basically teaches us how to free ourselves from all the lies that we have been taught (and that we've slowly adopted as our individual belief systems); how to clean and heal our wounds (which are at the root cause of all our suffering and unhappiness) and how to reach a place of complete self-love through forgiveness and authenticity.

mastery of love

great read or listen. really can open eyes to many ways to improve a relationship.

Mastering Love Toltec Style

"When you're aware that no one else can make you happy...and that happiness is the result of your love, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltecs: the mastery of love." - Don Miguel Ruiz Based on the book of the same name, The Mastery of Love Cards illuminate fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love. It's the stories we tell ourselves-our personal dream-that lead to drama and suffering in our relationships. This gorgeous 48-card deck features vibrant, whimsical images by Lori Koefoed, the same artist that illustrated the Four Agreements Cards and Voice of Knowledge Cards. One side contains a brief sentence, while the other elaborates on the theme. Both sides are colorfully illustrated, and the deck comes in a sturdy flip-top box. Some of the wisdom found in the Mastery of Love Cards include: ~You are what you believe you are.~ "Humans are powerful magicians. You have the power to make yourself what you are right now, but it's not your reasoning mind that controls your power; it's what you *believe*." ~Be aware of the quality of your communication.~ "The quality of your communication depends on whether you tune your emotional body to love or fear. If you know what love is and what fear is, you become aware of the way you communicate your dream to others, and you can choose to communicate with love." ~Create the perfect relationship between you and your body.~ "Treat you body with all your love, honor, gratitude, and respect. When you make it your goal to adore you own body and accept yourself completely, you are learning to have a perfect relationship with anyone else you are with." ~Love and accept yourself just the way you are.~ "You are what you are; you don't need to pretend to be something else. When you pretend to be what you are not, you are always going to fail." If you enjoy the writings of Don Miguel Ruiz and the Toltec teaching of self-responsibility-and are looking for additional insight into the nature of love and honesty-The Mastery of Love Cards are a colorful reminder that, at any moment, you can create heaven right here on Earth. (To see 6 images from this deck, visit the Reviews--Decks--section at http://JanetBoyer.com)

This book will change your life!

I have read both this book and The Four Agreements several times now and each time I learn something new. After reading this book, you feel that you are completely in control of your life, and of the consequences of the choices you make. This book not only teaches you how to improve the relationships of people in your life, but, more importantly, it teaches you how to improve the relationship you have with yourself. It is well written and read very easily in a few days time. Each time I start to read this book, I don't want to put it down. When I review a book, I usually like to say at least one thing that could be improved about the book. However, with this book, I can only say good things. It's well worth the money, and well worth the time to read. I have recommended it to several of my friends, telling them if it doesn't change their life, I will reimburse them for the cost of the book. So far, I haven't had to reimburse a single person!

Some new insights into love and relationship.

How can anything new about love and relationship be written - hasn't it all been said? Mr. Ruiz manages to approach love and relationship with a perspective that is so fresh that it opened my eyes to new possibilities. The author reveals the differences between relationships based on love and those based on fear and gently guides the reader to recognize the symptoms when fear is shutting out the warmth and joy that is our birthright. Reading this book is invigorating - I came away excited to practice the author's principles - and I find myself less judgmental and more relaxed about my relationship with my husband. Buy this book - it is an insightful guide to a more satisfying relationships.Another book that contains amazing insights into life is Working on Yourself Doesn't Work - by Ariel & Shya Kane. In this book, the Kanes describe three principles of transformation - they are simple but very potent and contain profound and original insights. Unconscious destructive behaviors and attitudes dissolve in an instant through awareness - a non-judgmental observing of what is. Reading this book resulted in some profound changes in my perceptions of who I was, and, as a result, my life circumstances began to shift - as if by magic. I don't know HOW it worked - only THAT it worked. I highly recommend this book.

About unconditional love

I particularly like what the the aurhor says about unconditional love. I think we have to understand the God loves us unconditionally before we can practice this concept. I learned about God unconditional love in the book and the Book An Encounter With a Prophet which removed all of the support for the negative concepts I had about God. I highly recommend both books.