The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say "i Do"

by Susan Piver and Piver Susan

Book Overview

The classic New York Times bestseller

This book of hard questions and exercises for couples is innovative and exciting. --Andrew Weil, M.D.

In this simple yet profound relationship tool, Susan Piver shows couples at any stage of their relationships -- be it newly-engaged or married-for-decades -- how they can forge and strengthen lasting, intimate bonds. Focusing on key areas such as home, money, work, sex, community, and family, The Hard Questions contains one hundred thought-provoking questions that challenge and inspire couples to gain a deeper understanding of each other.

Together with your partner, you'll discuss matters such as:

- What will our home look like?
- What are our professional goals?
- Are each of us happy with the other's approach to health?
- What will we do if one of us is seriously attracted to someone else?
- Will we try to have children, and if so, when?

With its elegant design, The Hard Questions is the perfect gift for wedding showers and anniversaries, or for anyone considering marriage.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1585426210
• ISBN13: 9781585426218
• Release Date: December 2007
• Publisher: Tarcherperigee
• Length: 98 Pages
• Weight: 0.25 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.3" x 5.0" x 7.0"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

Ask yourself the sober question

Do you really love him/her enough to tie the knot? If there was one book that convinced me to do the ultimate reality check, it was this book. I contemplated that maybe I did, maybe I didn't love him. The book stalled my decision enough for me to find out that he was cheating on me for over 2 years. I was furious! I broke off the engagement and stopped seeing him. Thanks to this book I am free him and his backwards ways. Thank you Susan. I ordered this book along with another book called Dreams: Gateway to the True Self. It was a book that made me realize who I was again and that I have to be the most important person in my life. And not put a man above me. Thank you to both authors.

Surprising Results!

I ordered this book based on seeing Susan Piver on "Oprah". Although I didn't question my love, communication with my husband needed some "work", so I thought this book could be helpful. I was extraordinarily surprised by the results. My first surprise was that my husband was so willing and eager to participate in this. My second surprise was some of the answers and information we exchanged. Some of the simpler questions that I thought would be one word answers, led to deep discussions. There is no question but that this book has been extremely helpful to us. Even without the book to guide us, we now find the exchange of honest and open conversation much easier. "The Hard Questions" is a good book!!!

Great questions that lead to very deep conversations

Although I'm already very happily married, my wife and I have found this book to be incredibly stimulating. She bought a copy on impulse for a friend who's getting married, but after skimming through it, we ended up keeping a copy for ourselves and buying another for our friend. We haven't finished it yet (not by a long shot), but we have found the process of answering the questions very insightful and provocative. We have discovered things about each other that might have taken years to find out. We have had some incredibly deep and interesting (and sometimes quite difficult) conversations that have lead us to whole new levels of understanding about each other. I'm generally not a big "self help" guy, and I was definitely skeptical when she started reading the questions to me, but it really has been a fun and helpful (albeit also a little scary sometimes) process. I recommend this book highly and not just for people who are contemplating getting married. I think it's an excellent book for any two people who are involved in a committed relationship and who want to understand each other better and perhaps take their relationship to a deeper, more meaningful level.