The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man

by John H. Lee

Book Overview

A record of one man's journey to find his "true masculinity" and his way out of co-dependent and addictive relationships. It's a book for all men and women who grew up in dysfunctional families and are now ready for some fresh insights into their past and their pain. It's a story about feelings - losing them, finding them and finally expressing them. Here you will find people you know; will discover a way out of the pain and see that it really is OK to express yourself without fear. The book is about grieving, a very misunderstood process often confused with self-pity. Open the doors to understanding - men will understand themselves and each other, and women will more deeply understand men, learn how to be with wounded men and still take care of themselves.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1558740066
• ISBN13: 9781558740068
• Release Date: January 1989
• Publisher: Health Communications
• Length: 111 Pages
• Weight: 0.44 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.3" x 5.6" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Flying Boy Retains Altitude

I'm told this could have been a little more specific inasfar as guidance; however, it's based on the author's experiences and one soon understands that it's necessary to apply the information to one's own life. Once that light bulb goes on, it's a good read and a helpful work. It's also very short, and that helps a lot with motivation. :o)

Engaging retelling of the search for self.

John Lee, well known in the men's movement and the recovery movement, sets out to share with us his growth through his own troubles based on his prior relationships. His insights are well worth the read, as he shares with us the enlightenment he experiences as he tries to deal with the weight of his parents, his early rejections, and his inability to express the rage he feels in an appropriate way. His story is sometimes almost too personal: we don't really want to be there through ALL of it, somehow. And yet, we are transfixed even on the most basic responses he feels. His progress is steady and we are rewarded by the goals he achieves. Alas, like real life, there is no happy ending with the girl, the horse and the sunset. Still, the changes he feels, the inner pains he quells, these are all worth the pain he still carries, the fights he still has to fight. An enduring volume, and a must for the man still struggling with his father, struggling with his pain, or not sure why he struggles, only that he does.

Helpful for survivors of toxic families.

I found this book helpful, hopeful and comforting for both my own pain from childhood traumas and for understanding the person I love so much who has his own demons from his childhood raised in an alcoholic family. Lee's book is probably most helpful to those who are ready and willing to face their problems and find professional help to guide them in confronting and neutralizing the pain so destructive to successful and meaningful adult relationships. A short read, an inexpensive book, but very useful!