The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die

by John Izzo and John B. Izzo

Book Overview

What are the secrets to finding happiness? Why do some people live well and die happy? John Izzo asked thousands of people to identify the wisest person they knew. ""The Five Secrets You Must Discover... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1576754758
• ISBN13: 9781576754757
• Release Date: November 2007
• Publisher: Berrett-Koehler Publishers
• Length: 200 Pages
• Weight: 0.63 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.6" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Applying the seemingly impossible

John Izzo, Ph.D., a former minister and a psychologist, developed a television series based on the idea of interviewing 'wise elders' for their insights---people who have lived long lives and have found happiness and meaning in life. He and his co-workers interviewed more than 200 people age 60 and up, all of whom were described by people near to them as having that sort of wisdom. These people ranged from painters to barbers; spiritual leaders to businessmen; Holocaust survivors and victims of racism. From these interviews emerged five common threads, or 'secrets.' These aren't secrets in the sense of being unknowns---many of us have some idea that these things are important to a good life. They're secrets in the sense that we aren't living them. We aren't applying them. We don't seem to know how to make them work for us from day to day. Dr. Izzo mines the lives of his subjects, his friends, and himself---as well as his psychology and religious backgrounds---to help us figure out HOW to apply such obvious wisdom to our own lives. It's tempting when faced with an instruction that seems as bland as 'become love' to dismiss it as the suggestion of someone who's lived an easy life and isn't familiar with whatever our own hardships are. It's much harder to maintain that level of skepticism, though, when faced with the very personal stories of people who've survived horrible tragedies and catastrophes and yet gone on to find meaning in their lives. The only difficulty Dr. Izzo faces with this book is the fact that, frankly, there's a limited amount he can do to teach us to apply these lessons to our own lives. There is no simple prescription for figuring out what your ideal career might be or how to stop worrying about what will happen tomorrow. That said, he does his best to give the reader ideas for where we might start. The title is kind of gimmicky, the subject sounds overly vague, and the concept sounds like hype. But when you get into the actual book, I think you'll find it filled with surprising wisdom. This material won't be easy to work into your life, but the result is almost bound to be worth the effort.

"Leave with no regrets..."

John Izzo interviewed 200+ people over the age 60 who were described by many others as happy and wise people. Through in-depth interviews, he learns the five secrets of life: 1. Why do some people find meaning & die happy 2. Why I talked to the town barber (and 200 other people over 60) about life 3. The first secret: be true to your self 4. The second secret: leave no regrets 5. The third secret: become love 6. The fourth secret: live the moment 7. The fifth secret: give more than you take 8. When you know you have to go (putting secrets into practice) 9. Preparing to die well: happy people are not afraid to die 10.A final lesson: it's never too late to live the secrets Epilogue: How this book changed me The author writes in conversational tone and supported his secrets with colorful anecdotes and personal reflections. For example, in the second secret (leave no regrets) Izzo states that in "his experience from the last 30 years, validated in these interviews, death is not what we fear the most. When we have lived life fully and done what we hoped to do, we can accept death with grace. What we fear most is not having lived to the fullest extent possible, to come to the end of our life with our final words being `I wish I had.'...to leave no regrets we must live with courage, moving toward what we want rather than away from what we fear." While the 5 secrets aren't a surprise to many, there are many powerful insights in this book that leave you thinking. And while it's one thing to know the secrets, it's an entirely different (and more difficult) matter to put them into action. If you enjoyed this book, pick up John's Izzo other gem - Second Innocence.

the purpose is wisdom

Looking to our elders for guidance is a time honored and wise practice that unfortunately is not played out often enough. John Izzo encourages us to go back to that tradition in his book "The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die." Seeking the secrets to happiness, it makes sense to look to those who have lived it. John interviewed over 200 people, all over the age of 60 and some up into their hundreds, who had been identified by their own friends and family as "the one person they knew who had found happiness and meaning." These people were asked such questions as: "What has brought you the greatest sense of meaning and purpose in life?" and "What is the greatest fear at the end of life?" They were asked to finish the sentence: "I wish I had..." These elders came from all walks of life and acted many roles; some were authors, professors, or business owners, others were a nurse, psychologist, biologist, and a barber. Amazingly, or expectedly, their answers were quite similar. Therein are the five secrets. The first, and only one I will divulge, is "Be True to Your Self." Of course this can mean different things to each person who reads the words, but author John Izzo guides readers to the purpose behind them. His guidance leads one to ask in this chapter, "Am I following my heart?" "Is my life focused on the things that really matter to me?" and "Am I being the person I want to be in this world?" Answering these questions will lead a person to be true to themselves. Izzo demonstrates the secret by sharing stories from his interviewees. They share by example, much as elders have done since the dawn of humanity. This brings the secret to life for us, and then Izzo gives us homework. He gives us questions to ask ourselves each day or week, that bring the secret home and to the front of the mind. Practice, practice, practice. And so on, with each of the five secrets. This book is a gem. It is an obvious quest to go to our wise members of society and seek answers to life's questions, but many of us no longer do it. "The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die" does it for us, and hopefully will prompt us to do it ourselves with our own elders. The stories here are all about living wisely, living in the moment; some are funny, while others are poignant. All should be thought-provoking. The consistency of the lessons makes for an easy to understand and digest plan. Taking one secret at a time to work on may be best for some people, pausing in the consumption of the book to work on that particular goal. Other may devour the entire book in one sitting and go back to reflect more carefully as they consider each message. The end result is surely one that will be self fulfilling and inspired. While the title may cause one to stop for a second, for good reason and cause, the content and purpose is wisdom.

Thought provoking and well written

I have to agree with the previous reviewer. Izzo has a way of bringing his point home with excellent stories and examples. And being a scientist, I liked his methodology for discovering those five "secrets". I also like the format - five "secrets" with a few important exercises for each. Books like this are only useful to the degree to which their principles can be put into practice. And having key information distilled down into small memorable chunks helps a lot. Highly recommended.

Thought provoking

I like this book because it is straightforward with good stories to provide an effective way of understanding the five secrets. They are not really secrets nor are they new to any reader of this type of book but Dr. Izzo has provided a way to look at them in a different way and in the context of your own life. The stories pack a lot of punch. If you are a reflective person, this book is for you. If you are not, I think it will still get you thinking about how you live your own life.