The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love

by Susan Jeffers

Book Overview

The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love speaks to everyone of us--whether we're in a troubled relationship...looking for the right mate...happily partnered...or considering whether to move on, it shows us how to push through the fear and negativity that erode relationships, and embrace a life-affirming approach to love.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0974577693
• ISBN13: 9780974577692
• Release Date: August 2005
• Publisher: Jeffers Press
• Length: 272 Pages
• Weight: 0.35 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.1" x 6.2" x 9.2"

Customer Reviews

The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love

Lasting, unconditional love is probably the one thing that we all really want and need in our lives yet it is probably the hardest thing to actually receive. Most of us look to others to prove their love for us. We test them and measure them against some Hollywood version of what true love should look like. When our love doesn't quite look like that fantasy, we immediately begin to blame our significant other. Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love reminds the reader that healthy lasting love comes in many different forms. There is no one right relationship and no perfect romance. Lasting love takes commitment, communication, and effort. Moreover, in order to feel love, we need to take fear of rejection and finger pointing out of the equation entirely. A healthy relationship is based upon genuine respect for every aspect of your lover, even when you don't quite understand it.

This book is a gift you can give yourself

Susan Jeffers has written a great book about love and what good relationships require. I have been going through a really rough patch with my fiance and even questioning our engagement. I was really looking for good advice, a quick fix, but none of the books I read really helped. I found so many of them negative and advocating leaving a tough relationship. I knew that was not what I wanted. When I started reading "The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love" I knew I was on to something different and I learned more than I imagined possible from one book. Susan has managed to take all the complicated, messy things that come out of intimate relationships and explains them in simple and beautiful words. I found myself agreeing with nearly everything the book says. I breathed a sigh of relief when I finished this book because after I read it, I knew I would be OK. I still have a lot to do to make things right, but I know that I can. A great relationship with my fiance, and hopefully a great marriage, begins with my attitude. This book help me in so many ways. I think it can help everyone.

Looking at life in a conscious way

As always, Susan Jeffers inspires us to pay attention to those aspects of our lives we normally take for granted. It is so easy to forget that our behavior intimately affects how our mate behaves. Hold up the mirror rather than the magnifying glass, and we may begin to realize that much of what we say, do, and radiate is coming back to us. Attempt to change that behavior, and we may indeed get more of what we want. In this book, Susan Jeffers also reprises one of her favorite themes: "I can handle it." Why do we fear confrontation, abandonment, criticism, etc.? Because we're afraid we'll go to pieces if they happen. Realize that we'll get through whatever it is, even if it takes a while, and the fear of those things subsides. When the fear leaves us, so does our need to control our mate, and the relationship improves. It's not easy to implement this advice, but if Lasting Love only gets us to stop and ask "Why am I getting so upset when he/she does such-and-such?," we will have made progress.

Beautiful!

READ IT!! You WILL find key to lasting love and happiness with this book!!!

What does real love really look like?

Among other questions, Susan Jeffers, PhD, answers the age old question, "What Does Real Love Really Look Like?" in her book The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love. Can you answer the question? The answer may not be what you expect, and the answer is well worth reading. Through examples of couples she interviews, Jeffers shows us how her advice on how to correct love related problems can work. Some of her advice is hard to swallow, however. Jeffers tells us that many of our problems with others whom we love could be solved if we hold up a mirror and take a good hard look at ourselves. "Now that you are coming to the realization that you are powerful and loving and have nothing to fear," Jeffers, says, "I invite you to use your power and love in a creative and exciting way. And that is to work toward improving your relationship (or finding one) all by yourself," she counsels. All by myself, I can hear you asking. What about him/her? There in lies Jeffers' secret to a happy, successful relationship. Spend your energy, time and effort fixing yourself and taking care of yourself, not worrying about what needs to be fixed or what is wrong with your spouse. And that is what makes her advice hard to follow. You may have to be silent, giving, loving and responsible when your mate isn't any of those things. To help overcome the possible obstacles in following her advice, Jeffers lists and discusses "Love Lessons" that include: *Expanding your words of love one week at a time. *Talk beautifully about your mate in the company of others. *Be who you want your partner to be. *Make time. *Become a romantic. *Appreciate the little things. *Focus on abundance. *Remember to have patience. Along with listing these golden rules, she tells readers how to achieve results by practicing them. Lessons in compassion, how to find your "Higher Self," and how to give to get what you want in life area bundant in this volume. Jeffers' suggestions are doable and reading the book certainly makes one stop to think about his or her responsibility as far as the success or failure of a relationship. The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love is a book certainly worth looking into.