I'd refine Seidenberg's and Dawes's analysis by agreeing that there IS abundant gender bias disfavoring fathers in America's family courts---but more fundamentally there's an even stronger predisposition toward recognizing one, dominant parent: a `better parent' bias. The courts tend to take sides very quickly, and resist backtracking or changing their mind; thus all of the injustice and malignity that usually falls upon fathers can and does descend upon a mother now and then.Children in the vast majority of cases want to be parented---not visited---by both their parents; both parents have their strengths and weaknesses, and frequently complement each other: there is no `better' parent! I read the facts very truthfully conveyed in _The Father's Emergency Guide..._ as a persuasive indictment that the courts and the rest of the divorce `industry' pervasively subvert the child's best interest in, and right to, the joint custody of both his/her parents. It's practical advice---valuable as it is---only serves to mitigate the damage: we also desperately need comprehensive and penetrating reform of the system.
A must read for all fathers and husbands
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 24 years ago
I only wish I had read this book 11 months ago when my wife had planned her divorce from me and got an advantage from the begining. I was a happy father with three beautiful children and was evicted from my home overnight. Thanks to Robert Seidenberg, he could have gave me a play by play move about my forced separation. I could relate to this book so much it was an erie feeling to read it, but it is 100% true. You can lose and will, eveything and be on the road to total disaster if you dont take his advice.
Must Read This Book
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 24 years ago
I have a lot of experience with the divorce/custody system, and have read many books on it. This one is the best. It is written in an easy to understand manner, is backed by solid evidence, and more to the point, it provides must have information for any parent. This is due to the fact that custody is winner-take-all, and if you don't have the information in this book (if you are a father), you almost certainly will not win. I read this book when my custody case was 18mos old, I found my case followed the book like a movie script. I lost my custody case. My son now lives 1800 miles away from me, and I spent $30,000 to date for this. If I would have had "Emergency Guide to Divorce/Custody" before, or near the beginning of my case, the results would be quite different. I would be living in the same town as my boy, and I might have spent $5,000 to acheive that. The book will make that difference for you.
I Wish I Had Written This Book!
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 24 years ago
As a Divorced Dad with a 13-year old son, I wish that I had read Mr. Seidenberg's book four years ago. I was the typical American male, hoping that a 21-year marriage would not end in divorce. In fact, not being able to believe that a divorce was possible.My ex-wife took our son and moved out. If I had followed Mr. Seidenberg's advice, I would have aggressively protected my rights as a father. Instead, I went without legal representation for 90 days. BIG MISTAKE.Any father should read this book even if a divorce is not expected in your future. When you have children, (I have three sons), they need to be instructed on how they can protect themselves and their children from what I call "Power Feminism." My ex-wife has a master's degree from SDSU in Social Work so she is a master.In San Diego we face an incredibly male-negative family court system. I have started the Fatherhood Council,(available at dandreblow@aol.com), with the chief purpose of educating the public.Mr. Seidenberg's book has just become a free gift as part of the membership package. Enjoy! Dan Dreblow
totally on target
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 25 years ago
I am the wife of a man who pays child support and is continually denied visitation or rights of his child, his ex wife does what she wants and when she wants and our "Judicial" system lets her get away with it. Some may think it slams women, but I have been on both ends also being a divorcee with a child. Thank God, my ex and I did not have to play games with each other, he still was a father and I still was the mother, no games. I have also worked in the law end of it as a paralegal, yes, in most courts men are given the total shaft. This book has great direction and I recommend it a must read for every person fighting our great judicial system regarding child custody/support and ex-spouses.
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