The fantasy game: How male and female sexual fantasies affect our lives

by Peter Dally

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• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0812817907
• ISBN13: 9780812817904
• Release Date: January 1975
• Publisher: UNKNO
• Length: 204 Pages
• Weight: 1.10 lbs.

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British psychiatrist Peter John Dally, M.D. (1923-2005), penned "The Fantasy Game How male and female sexual fantasies affect our lives," in 1975. It is a 204 page, easy to read book that even comes equipped with a 27 item, lighthearted quiz enabling one to ascertain their sadomasochistic fantasies and inhibitions! "The Fantasy Game" delves sexual fantasies in their relation to: impact on one's life, sexual development, marriage, pornography, witch-hunting, self-pleasure, and possible perils. Dally says people often identify with roles in fantasies that are either sadistic--being aggressive/active; or masochistic--being submissive/passive, and sometimes an uneven mixture of both. They can represent what one cannot/shouldn't/but would like to, do in reality. Fantasies can be an encouragingly, safe outlet--or the opposite. Fairytales, legends and myths have always reflected who we are and influenced our behavior, just as erotica and the media do today. The section on pornography and fantasies in Dally's volume is informative, wherein he says, "In many cases pornography acts as a safety-valve, but in others....may...lead them to act out their...fantasies." Later, British psychologists Hans Jurgen Eysenck, Ph.D. (whose pornography content grading scale for literature Dally shuns in his book) and D.K.B. Nias, Ph.D., in their work, "Sex, Violence and the Media" (1978), say much the same: "Similar to catharsis is the 'safety-valve' or 'substitution' theory....that pent-up sexual desires...may be satisfied by...looking at pornography. If so...pornography offers a...beneficial outlet for...people....But...exposure...may...increase...unacceptable urges...the person will...act out...." Whatever one's position on the safety and efficacy of pornography, I believe there are two modes of erotic material that should be adumbrated. The first mode is "quantitative-sensual phantasy" pornography, or "pornographica erotica," in which people are reduced to meaningless sex objects amongst the congeries of emotionally frozen bodies of any licentious depiction. This most common form is in essence a contortion of reality and a toy for the vacuous minds of graphelagniacs. For this purpose women have displayed an energetic distaste, because they have found such pornography to be anti-female with its opprobrious exploitation of the body. Such an exploitation is a facsimile of the slave relationship, devoid of romance, and therefore that which could cater only to the Fescinnine fancies of some men. Conservatives, with their sadistic-moralistic character, have found pornography to be even more reprehensible and unsavory because they believe it purloins neophytes of their chaste ignorance. The second mode of erotic material is "qualitative-sensuous fantasy" pornography, or "erotic pornographica," a true artistic form that does not engulf the viewer immediately with the total candor expected in such productions. Moreover, this less common form conserves one's