The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship: How to Fall in Love Again--And Stay There

by Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg

Book Overview

This straightforward guide explains how Chemistry, Respect, Enjoyment, Acceptance, Trust, and Empathy are the pillars that support a strong, successful relationship-and how couples can repair those pillars, protect them against the long-term wear and tear of stress, boredom, and bickering, and build a lasting, satisfying love.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0399527397
• ISBN13: 9780399527395
• Release Date: April 2002
• Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
• Length: 336 Pages
• Weight: 0.80 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 6.0" x 9.0"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

WE STOPPED GOING TO MARITAL THERAPY AND USED THIS BOOK

We've saved thousands of dollars in marital therapy by using this book. The most amazing thing about it is to follow Goulston's suggestion to take the quizzes at the beginning of each section on how to CREATE love (Chemistry, Respect, Enjoyment, Acceptance, Trust, Empathy) and more importantly to then answer them the way you think your partner would answer them. Then exchange what you have written down and marvel at how little you really understand each other and then start to heal when you correct the misunderstandings. It's absolutely magical. Even men will get into it because you get the sense Goulston's a guy's guy, but is so without offending women. Run to buy this one!

The Best Guide Ever to Bring Back Love and Loving

Dr. Goulston's book made so much sense to my husband, felt so right to me, and was extremely doable for both of us. It helped us recognize when and where the great things disappeared from our life and more importantly gave us a way to bring them back. Skeptical as were, this book really can help you to fall back in love again and stay there.

A book that should accompany every marriage certificate.

This book explains why so many couples find themselves drowning in marital misery. Dr. Goulston shows couples what they can do to get back the love they once had. His profound understanding of love relationships obviously comes from a depth of knowledge about the fundamental needs of men and women, needs which are not as different as others might have us believe. Men and woman are, as Dr. Goulston says, "from the same planet" after all. I am not kidding about this book being a manual for marital happiness. That's how I will use it. A truly great book!

Uncommonly Real and Riveting

Dr.Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg have recaptured the magic of their first book, "Get Out of Your Own Way." The tone and "voice" of " Secrets" presents in aclear and honest manner real life ways to begin to heal and rebuild a wanted relationship. The scene is set in each chapter with questions designed to force you to not only look in, but look from the inside out. If there was ever a text that so deserves to be read by every intimate couple, this is it.The examples and testimonials bring the advice to life, and the advice is well thought out and obviously honest and workable. Unlike so many booksthat try to reframe our way of thinking about our relationships, "6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship" assist you in working with what is already there and perhaps not understood well enough by the reader to move forward. The intimacy of reading and responding to advice is one of the many joys of reading. Surely having a book like this brings us much closer to our own solutions, and more importantly, closer to the one we love.Read this book with the knowing that the words, advice, stories, and solutions work. Read it as well with hope and faith. There is something here to help anyone who needs it.

A wonderful book! Publisher's Weakly, gimme a break

This a sound and solid book. And as the author suggested, it did get my husband to "buy in" more than any other book I have tried to discuss with him to improve our relationship. Because of this book, my husband and I are talking "with" instead of over or at each other for the first time in years. We're still not out of the woods, but I am hopeful that my husband and I will be able to fall in love again. I'd go and on, but I'm still afraid to jinx a good thing.