Straight Wives: Shattered Lives

by Bonnie M. Kaye

Book Overview

Twenty-seven members of Kaye's international support group tell their personal stories to help millions of other women living or leaving their straight/gay marriages with the advice on how to move on. This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1605855677
• ISBN13: 9781605855677
• Release Date: September 2007
• Publisher: Bonnie Kaye Services
• Length: 212 Pages
• Weight: 0.76 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

Breaks the silence...

This book, like Bonnie Kaye's others, powerfully explores the unique problems experienced by women who have been married to men who hid their homosexuality. The women who share their stories in this book come from all walks of life and a variety of ethnic groups, but in story after story, detail by detail, they trace a shared history. When you live with a man who is using you to hide from his own sexuality, your sexual and personal self-esteem are dismantled piece by piece. But escape and recovery are possible, and there is much hope to be found in these life tales. Readers who find this book helpful will also be interested by Bonnie Kaye's latest book: How I Made My Husband Gay: Myths About Straight Wives I recommend Straight Wives: Shattered Lives to any woman who suspects her husband may be homosexual, or to anyone who wants to better understand the unique problems of secretive mixed orientation marriages. Finally, I'd like to add that Bonnie Kaye's books are supportive of the many brave gay people who do not hide their orientation inside of a "straight" marriage. Honesty is the best policy!

Good Book

I liked this book. Bonnie Kaye uses the stories of several women in this book. Their stories are different from one another, but the common thread is that they are straight and they married a gay man. I personally emailed the author, and she is very helpful and supportive of her readers.

Was also married to a gay man.

I too, was married to a gay man for over 30 years with no support or information available to me for years. That's why this powerful book is so important for others who might be in the same situation as I was. This book is so powerful and informative to others who want to understand better how wives suffer and try to preserve their families. Our children suffer as well and friends and family need to deal with them with compassion and understanding. We are victims of society that refuses to accept gays and let them live in peace. Our society is homophobic causing gays to hide in marriages and thus causing more pain to their families. This book is shocking, informative and powerful!!! I highly recommend it to everyone who wants to better understand how lives are shattered.

I am a gay husband

I am a gay married man who is at the crossroads of his life. After 14 years of living with a woman who is loving, kind, and understanding, I have decided to make the most difficult decision in my life to date--namely, be honest with her. After reading the book "Straight Wives, Shattered Lives," by Bonnie Kaye,I realize that the longer I withhold this truth from her, the more damage I am doing to her life. When I read some of the stories of these women in the book, I was faced with the reality of what I am doing to my own wife. I have fought these feelings of male attractions for many years. I wanted to be the husband my wife needs. I never meant to hurt her. I take my marriage vows very seriously. I married her because I was in love with her, and I still love her so much. But now I realize that I can never love her in the way she deserves to be loved--totally and completely. I know this because I have read the book "Forbidden Love With a Married Man: Email Diaries" by Dennis Schleicher. In his story, I saw the kind of relationship that I too desire with someone of the same sex. Between these two books, I realized I had to be honest with myself before I could be honest with my wife. I know my life will never be the same after I reveal this news, but I don't want to keep hiding behind a lie. Wish me luck.

Ex-Wife of a Gay Husband

This is a book that I just could NOT put down!! I read the entire book in one evening, finding myself and my past-life on EVERY page of this very compelling book! I, too, was married to a gay man for 30 years. Twenty-Seven stories tell the experiences of what it is/was like to be married to a Gay man. I applaud ALL of these fine women for putting on paper what their lives were/are like with gay husbands! I would highly recommend this book for anyone currently in such a situation OR anyone wondering if they could be!!!! There is so much insight into what to look for!! I wish I had a book like this 30 years ago!!!