Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

by Randi Kreger, Bill Eddy, William Eddy

Book Overview

Protect Yourself from Manipulation, False Accusations, and Abuse Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better--many of these "persuasive blamers" leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way. Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way. Turn to this guide to help you: Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1608820254
• ISBN13: 9781608820252
• Release Date: July 2011
• Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
• Length: 304 Pages
• Weight: 0.96 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 6.3" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

Helpful

I have been married to a verbally and emotionally abusive man for almost 23 years. I am trying to figure out how my kids and I can escape safely. This book has good information. Other books I recommend include: The Dance of Anger By Harriet Lerner Not to People like us By Susan Weitzan Why does he do that? By: Lundy Bancroft Codependent No More by Melody Beattie The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans 10 Lifesaving Principles for women in Difficult Relationships by Karla Downing Next Time, She’ll Be Dead by Ann Jones The New Codependency by Melody Beattie Better than boundaries Victory Over Verbal Abuse by Patricia Evans When Love Goes Wrong by Susan Schechter and Ann Jones Too Good for Her Own Good by Claudia Bepko and Jo Ann Krestan Controlling People by Patricia Evan The Emotionally Abused Woman by Beverly Engel The Verbally Abusive Man- Can He Change? By Patricia Evans It’s My Life Now by Megan Kennedy Dugan and Roger R. Hock Wounded by words by Jeenie Gordan, Karen Kosman, & Susan Osborn 2nd half going back to abuse may be dangerous Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them by Paul Hegstrom Sweet Suffering: Woman as Victim by Natalie Shainess Emotional Vampires by Albert J. Bernstein The Sociopath Next Door by Martha Stout The gift of fear by Gavin de Becker Emotional Blackmail by Susan forward, Donna Frazier & Susan Frazier Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love them by Susan Forward and Joan Torres It’s my life now by Meg Kennedy Dugan & Roger R Hock Divorcing a narcissist By Tina Swithin Healing from Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomas

Informative and worth the read!

This book is amazing. I'm am currently in the process of organizing a divorce from a physically abusive narcissistic sociopath. This book is pinpointing every abusive thing he did, including the verbal and psychological. I'm concerned about the custody and safety of my daughter, so this book gives insight to the "reasoning" the personality disorder believes. It gives pointers on everything from how to choose a lawyer and what to say and not to say in court. Super informative.