Soulmate or Cell Mate: A Guide to Healthy Relationships

by Jackie Woods

After counseling couples for more than 25 years, it became clear to Jackie Woods that the concept of a relationship in today’s society is deeply flawed. Woods rejects the idea that a relationship is... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1933690003
• ISBN13: 9781933690001
• Release Date: March 2006
• Publisher: Adawehi Press
• Length: 247 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 8.3" x 0.8" x 5.5"

Customer Reviews

Soulmate or Cell Mate

There are lots of relationship books on the market that coach couples to love each other unconditionally. In order to achieve this state, each person is often told to love their mate for who he or she is and not for what he or she could be. This sounds like smart advice but practice of this seemingly easy action is extremely difficult. Soul Mate or Cell Mate goes further than most relationship books. This book explains that every relationship is composed of three entities: the two individuals and the actual relationship. In order for balance to occur, each of these entities needs to be healthy and whole. Thus, in a good relationship, both individuals commit to their own wellness, their partner's wholeness, and the health of the relationship. Another interesting notion introduced in this book is that individuals show love in different ways. This concept may seem obvious but few of us actually recognize that someone might be saying they love us by making a sandwich, taking out the trash, or letting us have alone time.

Rule book for marriage!

We all wish there was a book of directions for rearing children, well this is just the book for any relationship! It is an easy read, well mapped out and directs you toward harmony and maturity in working things out and living together in marriage. A must read for anyone in a meaningful relationship that you want to last. We have learned a lot and wish we would have had this "tool" 20 years ago when we were married!!!

A must read

Reviewed by Michelle Anne Cox-Lomas for Reader Views (8/06) "Soulmate or Cell-Mate" by Jackie Woods is a truly fantastic book, filled with a lot of positive and heartfelt information on how you can tell the difference between being in a Soulmate relationship or a Cell-mate one. She guides you through all the possible areas of your life where relationships are important and helps you to understand how you can improve, heal, and add more heartfelt energies, such as; Abundance, Acceptance, Adventure, Affection, Balance, Beauty, Flow, Humor, Love, Inspiration, and Peace - just to mention a few of the 90 heartfelt energies that she will explain to you. Once knowing how to add these most important energies into your relationships, you will easily be able to have more flow and serenity with the people that you love the most. I learned so much through this great book about how to have a better relationship with my husband, children, friends, parents, and even with the most important person that I will ever have a relationship with...myself! It is possible to take a frustrating relationship, see it in a new light, add some true heartfelt energies and watch the relationship space between you and the one you love grow and grow and grow! I loved the way that Jackie brought it to my attention about how important it is for every person to have their own "space" and that when we decide to go into a relationship with another person; we then create a brand new space that IS the "relationship space". That "relationship space" does not take away from our own individual "space." I think too many people these days get into co-dependent (or cell-mate) relationships because they think when in a relationship with someone, that means they then own the other person's individual space. This sets the stage for all kinds of negative energies to arrive, like envy, jealousy, suspicion, etc. I learned a much better way of looking at all of my relationships through "Soulmate or Cell-mate" and she is right, it's up to you to make the choice. I learned how to begin new relationships, nurture the ones that are important to me, and put closure to the ones that I needed to let go of. It's amazing how we hold onto old relationships from the past and bring that baggage into our current relationships. Jackie Woods taught me how to celebrate the good times from those past relationships and actually allow myself to grieve over letting them go. This was a big step for me. I realized by reading her book that I had many past relationships that I had never put any real closure on. By allowing myself to understand the process of real closure, it allowed me to have so much more energy to concentrate on putting more heartfelt energies into my current relationships and I have personally noticed a very happy change indeed, with myself and all those around me. Whether you are looking to start a new relationship, nurture the current relationships around you, or put closure on your own past

Very Different, Interesting Outlook

We are blessed in this work to have an author who truly knows what she is talking about. Counseling for more than 25 years, author Jackie Woods realized that society was definitely leading couples down the wrong road in their relationships. We are told that we complete each other and we must bend and sway to fit together for a working relationship often leaving us beyond frustration. Is this how it should be? Not so, according to our author! We learn in this work that we are and should remain true to ourselves, our individuality and in doing so we only then can truly have a healthy relationship without resentments, unfulfilled visions or deep longings never spoken. She believes that coming together doesn't have to mean leaving your own desires behind but rather by expanding on them you will enhance each other and draw closer. She shares how 'heart energies' impact our relationships and choices and includes a list of the same, fully explaining her meaning on this subject and how it relates to us. She feels once we understand how this energy works in different areas or our lives and those of our partners we can have a much more fulfilling relationship. Very interesting work, well written with some thought provoking revelations that certainly are worth our consideration in striving to enhance any relationship.

Soulmate or Cell Mate

Have you ever wondered if there is actually one perfect person out there who will complete you and enrich your life in the way that can only be achieved by a soulmate? If so, author Jackie Woods says you are perpetuating a deeply flawed concept that is prevalent in our society. In her latest book, `Soulmate or Cell Mate: A Guide to Healthy Relationships,' she offers practical advice for improving relationships. Woods says the purpose of her book is to, "give you tools that will help eliminate the gap between your personal awareness and your relationship skills." She advises her readers to change their definition of a good relationship by coming to understand what makes it work. In guiding her readers on a spiritual journey towards developing a soulmate relationship, Woods explores how communication, childhood behaviours, strengths and weaknesses, hidden enemies, everyday problems, sex, family and money affect relationships. She focuses on heart energies and how they impact relationships and personal choices, including a list of these energies at the back of the book and referring specifically to eight which support relationships. They are acceptance, love, nurturing, support, honesty, trust, generosity, community and commitment. According to Woods, a relationship should be viewed as a third entity, separate from each of the individuals who are involved. By defining your dominant heart energies and identifying how you wish to express them, you can choose to react to your partner's heart energies and better understand where they are coming from. Part of this is realizing how you and your partner experience the world through physical, emotional, mental and spiritual perceptions. Woods says we have to be prepared before we enter a relationship. We need to work on ourselves before becoming involved with someone else since, "you can only love another person to the extent that you love yourself." Woods has 25 years of relationship counselling under her belt and she offers many examples of couples she has known and helped over the years. The illustrations are easy to relate to and offer human faces to the abstract ideas. Defining your actions and reactions by the energies that drive them will take some practise. I don't imagine rearranging your thinking in this way will be easy, but it makes sense that if you persevere and figure out your motivations you will have less stress in the long run. `Soulmate or Cell Mate' offers an alternative to the Hollywood concept of romance. It gives you hope that your relationship doesn't have to be stuck in one of these two categories because you and your partner can make the decision to become soulmates and develop a healthier relationship while each becoming healthier individuals in the process.