Someone I Love Is Gay: How Family & Friends Can Respond

by Bob Davies

Finding out that a child, spouse, relative or friend is homosexual can be an unwelcome surprise. You're hit with a complex combination of emotions--grief, shame, fear, guilt. You are flooded with questions ranging from why to what's next. You wonder what a biblical response would be. At the same time, someone you care about deeply may be awaiting your response. What should you say? Someone I Love Is Gay was created out of Bob Davies's personal and...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0830819827
• ISBN13: 9780830819829
• Release Date: June 1996
• Publisher: IVP Books
• Length: 216 Pages
• Weight: 0.61 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.5" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

A firm and loving book

This book shows parents (or others) how to love people who choose a gay identity when the parents disagree with that choice. It walks the fine line of speaking the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) to someone who is promoting homosexuality. It is well-written, has good ideas for ways to keep communication going, and above all seeks the best for the person who espouses the gay identity.

Sensible, Honest and Compassionate

This is an outstanding guide for concerned people who find out that their loved one (child, spouse or friend) has embraced a homosexual identity. Anita Worthen is the mother of an HIV-positive homosexual man who has struggled with her feelings about her son's sad situation. Bob Davies has himself left homosexuality. The two of them write in a knowing and understanding way about this topic. Their approach offers hope and healing for both the homosexual and his or her family and friends. The authors weave personal vignettes with sound advice, backed up by both religious and secular resources.I highly recommend that you read this book for yourself. With all due respect, some of the negative reviews you will read here are blatantly dishonest. One reviewer asserts that Anita Worthen advises parents to kidnap their gay children. But in fact, Mrs. Worthen advises AGAINST such a drastic step. She mentions "kidnapping" her son as an emotionally inappropriate action to have taken. Mrs. Worthen also recounts about how she attempted to maintain a close relationship with her son and male partner, cooking meals for them on a regular basis when illness made it hard for them to care for themselves. It is very disappointing, but also revealing, that the negative reviews of this book are so misleading and dishonest.

"A timely publication"

I grew up in gay culture and for years beleived the lie that no one could change. I am now 27 and am married and have two kids. I am happy to have read this publication. I bought the silly tales by gay activist, that just because homosexuality was in wildlife that meant it was okay. My freinds in the late 80's were dying of Hiv while gay activist refused to close the bath houses of San Francisco. I amso glad to be over that and am aware of this sinister movement. Gay people and Gay activist are two differnt groups. I loe to talk to gay people gay ativist are beyond talking to. I am happy and am not even a christian I am an athiest. So you can be ex gay and not be religous. Science is abounding with information that says sexuality can be changed by enviroment. The gay activist through means of intimidation not science got some of americas most cherished medical institutions to bend to there whinning. The American Psyciatric Association is about to get a huge law suit by former gays. I hope this will teach them to be honest....

SOMEONE I LOVE IS GAY

After learning that my daughter was leaving her 4 young children and a very loving husband to persue a lesbian relationship, I was devasted. Nothing can take away the terrible pain this has caused in family members, friendships, and fellow missionary friends and associatiates. Her dear husband recommended this book to me and it was a lifesaver for me. I still hate that this terrible thing has happened but I am now able to understand something about which we are dealing. I would recommend this book to anyone going through this painful discovery.

A practical and compassionate "must read" book.

I have spoken with many family members of homosexuals, and regardless of how accepting, loving, or even liberal they may be, the initial announcement, "I'm gay" is one that can knock you to your knees. I have also heard Anita Worthen speak several times, and her deep love and compassion for her son and for homosexuals in general is so evident. From her heart she writes this practical and compassionate book that is a "must" for any parent reeling from the news that their son or daughter is gay. Discovering this book is often the very first time that a parent or a family member discovers that they are not alone, that others have been there too, and that what they are feeling is normal. Especially helpful are the chapters on the grief cycle-adapted for the family member, and on how to relinquish your loved one and "let go."