Safe Haven Marriage

by Archibald D. Hart

Book Overview

Creating a safe haven for each other in a marriage can enable a couple to weather any storm. Yet that accomplishment is certainly easier said than done. Psychologists Arch Hart, Ph.D, and Sharon Hart May, Ph.D., present a detailed blueprint for establishing a marital safe haven so that couples can count on each other and avoid criticizing, blaming and shutting out their partners during tough times. Based on a new therapeutic approach that involves...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 078528947X
• ISBN13: 9780785289470
• Release Date: November 2003
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.74 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 6.1" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

Tool for Counseling

My wife and I lead the marriage ministry in our church and do much of the marriage counseling. We have used a number of Christian resources to help couples. Our approach is focused around Emotional Focused Therapy. This is the best resource we have found that captures the "process" of how to apply this concept to a realtionship. (works with kids, co-workers, etc as well) If a couple is committed to healing the marriage, and will learn and apply the skills outlined in the book--the marriage can be healed.

one of the better books on marriage

I have read many books on marriage but found this one to be different and most helpful. It outlined how my wife and i fight, and then showed us a way out of our fight cycle. We are beginning to learn how to stay emotionally connected, despite our differences. I highly recommend it. We are reading through this book at our monthly couples group - and find the questions at the end of each chapter very helpful.

A great book that can save your marriage

When you get married, your partner becomes a secure base, a safe haven; someone you can trust to listen and care about your concerns. The secure base is at the heart of your marriage. Whenever this is shattered, the marriage begins failing and, if the wound is not repaired, the relationship can eventually fall apart. This book does a wonderful job of explaining how to identify the wounds in your marriage and how to--practically--go about healing them. I have recommended it to many of my clients and they simply love it. If your marriage is struggling, you may want to check this book out.

safe enough to connect

This book is about how the arguments between you and your spouse keep you both from emotionally connecting. This book helped my wife and I realize that our conversations focused on trying to get each other to see our own side. We never stopped to understand each other. I defended myself against her accusations until I finally emotionally withdrew and put my emotional energy into work and my own interests. She kept at me saying that if she didn't I would never pay attention to her. My wife and I have been fighting like this for years. Safe Haven Marriage has helped us understand our fight cycle, why we fight and what we can do to change the way we share our views. It helped me see that when my wife's 'porcupine quills' come out and she is mad at me, underneath she is trying to get me to understand her and draw me in. 'Safe Haven Marriage' has helped us understand each other. A great book with great stories. I highly recommend it. It has helped us 'emotionally connect' for the first time in a long time.

a real haven

a fantastic book. i could not put it down. This is a realistic look at marriage and how to emotionally re-connect with your spouse. It touched right where i live in my marriage, and spoke to my real needs in my marriage. I don't want to learn how to 'communicate', i want to be more than friends with my spouse, i want to emotionally connect. This is the first book that outlined how i can do that. This is the only book i know that blends a Christian perspective with the emotionally focused therapy approach. The stories were informative and very realistic. I highly recommend the book.