Romantic Jealousy: Causes, Symptoms, Cures

by Ayala Malach Pines

Book Overview

What causes jealousy? Who is more prone to jealousy--women or men? Why does jealousy sometimes lead to violence? How can you tell if you are a jealous person? Dr. Pines draws on case studies from her clinical practice, jealousy workshops, and fascinating research with more than 100 individuals and couples--including interviews with people who have committed crimes of passion. Exploring the many facets of this complex emotion, Dr. Pines discusses five...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0415920108
• ISBN13: 9780415920100
• Release Date: August 1998
• Publisher: Routledge
• Length: 318 Pages
• Weight: 1.02 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 6.0" x 9.0"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary

Customer Reviews

And eye-opening and extremely helpful book

I am an extremely jealous (delusionally/abnormally jealous) person, and it is something I really wanted to change about myself. I believe that psychological, cultural, psychoanalytic, and situational factors all contribute to one's jealousy or lack thereof, and the prospect of ridding myself of it seemed both desirable and daunting. But reading this book has given me the confidence that I can, if not completely overcome my jealousy, at least channel my feelings correctly, understand the roots of the jealousy, and react with a more appropriate response.This book has done an excellent job of both getting out on paper some of the thoughts I've been trying to convey both to myself and to my boyfriend, as well as providing me with some new ways to understand my jealous feelings and tactics for conquering them. Some reviewers have said that the book offers no "cure" for jealousy. Of course it doesn't--I don't think any book on jealousy, or any other issue, for that matter, has the power to cure. Rather, it has to come from within, with the book to guide you. I am certainly not "cured" of my jealousy--changes like that don't happen overnight from reading one book. But this book has given me the much-needed jumpstart to begin conquering it.

Offers Help for Just About Any Jealousy

Jealousy is probably one of the most-asked-about situations on my website. Either guys are jealous of their girlfriends going and talking to other guys, or girls are jealous about the attention their guys get when they're out, or girls are trying to make their guys jealous so they start getting paid attention to ... the list goes on and on.What makes jealousy so powerful? How can it be such a destructive force in a relationship, when many times it's not even based on any 'real situation'? This book is a HUGE help when looking at jealousy. Whether you tend to be a bit too jealous yourself, or whether you're dealing with a partner who tends to be overjealous of you, the book gives real life examples of situations, and practical advice on how to deal with them.Just about every relationship has run into jealousy problems at one point or another. They CAN be worked through. I highly suggest this book as a great way to help improve your own relationship.

Fascinating

I came to this book after reading "Falling in Love," Pines' newest book. I LOVED "Falling in Love" (no pun intended!) so I decided to try this book out. Once again, I was totally shaken and amazed to discover how things she was writing about related to me and my life - they were things that made intuitive sense the minute I read them, but never occured to me before. Reading Pines' books is like one big "Eureka!!" experience. Highly recommended!!

Wonderful!

This book has saved the most important relationship of my life! I have already changed my life for the better and I just finished this book two weeks ago. My boyfriend of three years noticed the change immediately and is thrilled with the "new" me. Before this book, I thought my jealousy was caused by my cheating ex-husband. It opened my eyes to a much deeper beginning in my childhood with a parent who cheated and the feelings of insecurity that came from that. If you have uncontrollable fears of jealousy, you must read this book.

Excellent

This book really helped me understand why I was feeling jealous and, more importantly, how to start feeling better. A lot of the book dealt with jealousy caused by a cheating partner, which didn't apply to me, but overall the book was wonderful. Also very readable--a lot of interesting background about jealousy in different cultures. Overall, an excellent resource for people plagued by jealousy who really want to free themselves from the awful feelings associated with it.