Relational Shifts: A Family Doesn't Have to End Just Because a Marriage Does

by Julie Rappaport, Tasha Liberman, Lee Liberman

A Family Doesn't Have to End Just Because a Marriage Does... A divorced couple and their daughter each give their personal perspective, entwined with social commentary, on the current trend of divorce

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1419664646
• ISBN13: 9781419664649
• Release Date: March 2007
• Publisher: Booksurge Publishing
• Length: 206 Pages
• Weight: 0.68 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

Opposites Chafe One Another, Lose Integrity, and Become Best Friends After Divorce

In these days of reality television, I thought I was immune to shock. Wrong. This book about how divorces happen and how to respond to them shocked and surprised me in so many ways that I had to step back and think about what I had read before having any idea of how to review this book. This reaction occurred despite having gone through a divorce many years ago. In fact, if the personal story parts of this book had been portrayed as a novel, I would probably have complained that the book was unrealistic. The book's format is an unusual one that I can only characterize for you as "She felt and said; He felt and said; Their Daughter felt and said; and Lessons drawn heavily from Buddhist thought." The level of candor is extraordinary. There doesn't seem to be much that happened to these three people that they won't relate to you. What's the basic point? I would paraphrase the book's advice as being to approach marriage as a way to live with personal integrity while adapting the relationship to match the needs of the moment and the long term. Julie Rappaport and Lee Liberman got into trouble with their marriage because they didn't know each other very well before marrying. They also didn't spend enough time discussing what kind of a marriage they wanted. Julie wanted to try her wings and Lee wanted a traditional wife. The couple also experienced sexual issues that are apparently more common than I was aware of. They both ended up feeling like they were giving away parts of their personal identities to be in the marriage, yet they loved the other person. Becoming parents was similarly haphazard, although they are both devoted parents. Unlike many people who divorce, they clearly did their best to put their daughter's interests first. Even though Julie soon remarried, the three continued to function as a family after divorce . . . celebrating family events, taking vacations, and covering for each other. I thought this aspect of the book was potentially the most valuable for those who are considering divorce: You can divorce and still have a good relationship with your former spouse. Where the book is weakest is as a guide for planning for marriage and building a strong marriage. While the questions are certainly good ones, they aren't nearly enough to help those who are in the throes of passion and a new marriage to think through what needs to be thought through. As I read the material about how each spouse felt like they couldn't be themselves in the marriage, I was reminded of a neighbor whose husband left her after 30 years of marriage commenting that he was tired of not being able to be himself. I suspect that complaint is fairly common. I know that my favorite compliment about my wife is that she lets me be myself. But independent of the book's advice, it's riveting reading. I couldn't put it down.

Brave and Uplifting

This is a story told with brave honesty and deep love. While their story is certainly unique, I would imagine most families can relate to many parts of their experience. It should give people that are going through relational shifts a sense of hope and a new perspective on the possible outcomes of these shifts. Julie, Lee and Tasha face adversity with humor and hope and are an inspiration to those who want to heal and grow with their experiences.

A MUST READ for anyone who has ever been in a relatinship

This book is a page turner. It is a book written by a family who wants to tell their story from the beginning. Everyone has had relationships - so we all know how difficult it is to try to work things out sometimes. See how one couple is keeping the family together even though their marriage has ended.

Please Read This Awesome Book

This is a great read for anyone in an unhappy marriage or unhappy divorce. It's part self-help but mostly a riveting story about this family's journey. They have made lemonade out of their lemons.

Relational Shifts

This was as raw and honest a read as anything I've ever read. I'm still talking about it with friends. I know some who are having difficulties in certain relationships, (and not just with my married friends)I keep recommending it. Whom ever titled this book clearly needs to approach 'Webster'. I understand that 'Relational Shifts' involves everyone and how we chose to interact with one another. To have this concept intertwined with a page-turner of a storyline really makes this for an incredible find!