Rekindling Desire: A Step-By-Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages

by Barry W. McCarthy and Emily J. McCarthy

Book Overview

For over a decade Rekindling Desire has helped to restore and restructure sexuality in thousands of lives. This expanded edition continues the exploration of inhibited sexual desire and no-sex... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0415935512
• ISBN13: 9780415935517
• Release Date: January 2003
• Publisher: Brunner-Routledge
• Length: 216 Pages
• Weight: 0.60 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 6.5" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

Rekindling Desire: A Step by Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages

The insight revealed to me through this book was truly life changing. It is a guide to help couples change the way they view their expectations of long term, marital sexuality and put a new, healthy perspective into practice in order to renew and energize a most necessary and wonderful part of their marriage. With the knowledge I gained from this book, along with lots of prayer and a little relationship counseling, I was able to take what years of shame and social stigma had me convinced was the "normal" way to participate in a marriage and exchange it for a positive and loving character that encouraged me to love my husband emotionally, spiritually and physically without preconceived expectations or fear - including fear of rejection. Our once nearly dead marriage has taken a fresh new breath of life.

Wholistic Approach to Fulfilling Sexual Relationship

I particularly liked this book because it approaches the problem of rekindling sexual fulfillment in marriage from the viewpoint of the whole person. That is, it deals with the range of mental and emotional elements which contribute to real sexual fulfillment. This permits the reader to identify the elements applicable to his or her relationship and also to recognize that remedial action may require a range of actions. I also liked the authors' thesis that sexual fulfillment, even in a good marriage, is something which should be viewed as an objective to be tended to, requiring a certain amount of ongoing attention.

"A wonderful book"

Finally, an empathetic, informative, non-judgmental approach to understanding and resolving what felt like an overwhelming problem. I was impressed that the book offered such kind, practical advice without assuming a clinical tone. It was clearly written and by following their suggested techniques, my husband and I are truly emerging as an "intimate team". Our thanks to the McCarthy's for their sensitive and sage advice. This book is not for those who wish to take a TV commercial pharmaceutical approach to their sexual issues; however, I would highly recommend it to couples who seek to understand and strengthen all aspects of their intimate relationship.

This is a wonderful couples book!

I am a sex educator teaching in a Michigan college town. A graduate student told me about Rekindling Desire and how it helped both she and her partner have a much better sex life. I bought Rekindling Desire on her recommendation, read it, and now recommend it to couples of all ages. If a couple want to work on being an `intimate team'-a term that is creatively used in the book-to change their sexual life for the better, they'll find this book honest and clear, explaining lots of common sexuality concerns and making suggestions for how to move forward and solve problems. The book doesn't just cover sex, it really helps couples deepen their relationship and strengthen their intimacy. The McCarthys' have written other good books about sex, and are known for their conversational, non-textbook way of writing. Since Barry McCarthy is a sex therapist, he understands real people and real people's problems. No time is wasted on blaming; instead there are understandable and doable steps outlining a path to change. Great information, clearly written. For people who want to work together realistically to bring out the best in themselves, this is a wonderful book.

My highest recommendation

Barry and Emily McCarthy have written THE book for couples who are mired in a sea of sexual avoidiance. If you still love your partner, but you somehow just can't make the sexual connection, read this book. It is a treasure trove of practical, realistic strategies to revive your love.Here, finally, is the comprehensive, thoughtful, down to earlth, un-gimicky guide and roadmap I needed to have to give to the many, varied low and no sex couples who I see for sex therapy. There is no simplistic, woman's-magazine advice to be found in the pages of Rekindling Desire. I can't think of anything I wish the authors had said that they omitted. The discussions and the cases have depth, and as a reader struggling with the problem of a low sex relationship, you will find yourself in its pages. As the reader, you can hear the authors' seasoned clinical voices cheering you on, giving you sage advice. A major strength of this book: you get concrete, healing suggestions for rethinking, reframing, and constructively talking to eachother about this important, joint problem.You also get the chance to give up some long-held myths that are ruining your chances to reawaken love. I admire the McCarthys' discussion of normal sexuality and their counseling on realistic sexual expectations. Just reading through Rekindling Desire will be educational for all couples. Low and no sex relationships are complicated. Rekindling Desire does't promise instant cures, it doesn't hype the "latest advances." To make deep changes, readers will need to be committed to change, to grab hold of the techniques provided. But by adopting the "intimate team" approach, a loving couple who each intend to reclaim their due share of physical and emotional connection and sexual desire will surely succeed.