Red Flags: How to Know When You're Dating a Loser

by Daniel Goldfarb and Gary S. Aumiller

Book Overview

Sure, he's gorgeous, funny, and charming--but early in any doomed relationship there are warning signals foretelling the bad news to come. Studies show that most women will try to justify these signs, excusing them so they don't interfere with their fantasy of having met the perfect man. Unfortunately, such signs are usually all too prophetic--they are the essence of what Gary Aumiller and Daniel Goldfarb call "Red Flags." The question then becomes...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0452281172
• ISBN13: 9780452281172
• Release Date: September 1999
• Publisher: Plume Books
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 1.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.4" x 8.0"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

Fantastic!

Sure, you need to take some of this advice with a grain of salt, but the reason that men have gotten away with a lot of the stuff they've pulled is because women put up with it. It's eye-opening to read this book and see so many people you've known described down to the smallest detail. Women deserve to be treated well. This book helps identify the men who aren't going to do that.

Funny, Informative, and Eye Opening

This book catagorizes people into types that are losers. Yellow flag losers may be worth the effort, while RED flag losers need to be weeded out. The book even tells you how to get rid of a loser. The book is FUNNY, but also informative. Although you know the guy is a loser, sometimes it is difficult to put your finger on what is wrong. This book helps. The book helped me see some similarities in the losers I have met. It also helps to educate you on how to get out of the relationship. Some losers are easy to leave, but there are others that you just can't run from either because they keep returning, or because they become violent.There is one loser that the book does not mention. That is the one of the selfish or stingy person.I really enjoyed this book.

Tremendous

Hats off to the author for writing this fantastic guide in which he profiles 25 different types of dud boyfriend. They're all here - Mr Ego, The Deadbeat, The Closet Case etc etc to help you guard against dating Mr Wrong. I gave it to my daughter Stephanie for her 14th birthday, having got busy with the highlighter pen and added a handwritten appendix of my own with a few pearls of paternal wisdom.

A Magnificent Tool For Dating

After reading several books on relationships and dating, this is the first book to actually broach the subject of "Losers" in such a candid and witty manner. Every intelligent woman who is single or divorced should seriously consider this reading this fabulous book and pass it on to loved ones or good friends who are also dating. Keep in mind that this book is a tool to be supplemented by other qualified books for relationships and self-improvement, and it should not to be regarded as a dating "bible." The book covers simple techniques (or Red Flags) for detecting possible "Losers" before a woman considers a serious or even casual relationship with any man. Additionally, should a "Loser" somehow infiltrate a woman's life, there are very helpful tips on gracefully ejecting him from her life without creating a social or emotional disaster. It is admirable that the book has been authored by male (Ph.D.'s) who specialize in the methods used by police to profile criminals, and the authors have no qualms about pointing out the serious personality flaws of dysfunctional men lurking in the dating market. Although I had the abysmal experience of living with and subsequently ejecting a complete "Loser" from my life this year (prior to discovering this book), I am grateful that the authors published it during my prime dating years and I can finally avoid any further relationship traps thanks to Red Flags!

Green Light for "Red Flags..."

After reading Dr. Aumiller's first book, "Keeping It Simple," I couldn't help purchasing his newest book "Red Flags!: How to Know When You're Dating A Loser." At first I was hesitant in picking up this book, because I heard how it catergorizes men into different loser categories. (I am happily married and was afraid that my husband may be in one of those categories). So I decided to purchase this text and read for myself how my husband would be catergorized. Interestingly enough I found that he was none of the above. But I was, however, intrigued by the different types of men that were listed. When I think back on days that I was dating, I think God these guys were really Losers and pretty much wasting my time with B.S. Fortunately for me the RIGHT man did come around, before this book was written. I was so inspirationally overwhelmed by this book, not only did I buy one, but I bought four more books as Christmas presents for my single girlfriends who are having trouble finding mr. right in this world. Now this book doesn't actually tell you what you need, because everyone needs something different. But it does help you sort out losers and children from real men. Maybe your the type of woman who likes to play games, but if your like me you're only getting older and it is going to be harder and harder to find mr. right. If you are truly serious about relationships and getting a control of your love life, I highly recommend this book. I would also recommend this book to fathers who have daughters interested in dating. I know after i read it my husband wanted to see not only what category he was in but what to look out for when our little princess gets older. Kudos to Dr. Aumiller again and please keep 'em coming.