Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido

by Marianne Brandon and Andrew Goldstein

Book Overview

I'm so busy and tired, how can I find time for sex?
How can I go from mommy one minute to passionate lover the next?
What medicines or natural herbs can I take to improve my libido?

At some point in their lives, most women experience a decline in their sexual desire. Yet despite the vast number of books devoted to sex, surprisingly few focus on the problem of low libido. Fewer still offer any practical advice to...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1605298263
• ISBN13: 9781605298269
• Release Date: June 2009
• Publisher: Harmony/Rodale
• Length: 336 Pages
• Weight: 0.85 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.4" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

Reclaiming the erotic in your relationship

Written for women, "Reclaiming Desire" explores why sexual desire fades and what can be done to bring it back. Authors Andrew Goldstein, M.D. and Marianne Brandon, Ph.D., the founders of the Sexual Wellness Center in Annapolis, Maryland, claim that there are four keys to reclaiming this desire. These keys are good physical health, being emotional resilient, being intellectually fulfilled, and having spiritual contentment. We all go through various life changes, any one of which can affect the libido. The authors look at many of these changes and how they affect your sex drive as well as what can be done to reduce or eliminate that effect. Each of their four keys is examined in detail including not only how things like hormones, depression, anxiety, stress, menopause and other factors affect your drive but also exploring how to lessen those effects. They do a good job of exposing various myths and misconceptions as well as detailing what works and what does not. With today's focus on natural health options they even include information on how exercise and other natural options can be used. Throughout the book two messages are clear - you are not alone and there is hope. "Reclaiming Desire" is highly recommended to any woman suffering from a declining libido who wants to reclaim that portion of their relationship as part of their life.

The Best Book Written on Women's Desire Problems

Reclaiming Desire is a gift to women who have lost their libido. Doctors Goldstein and Brandon have created a beautifully-written, comprehensive, empowering and compassionate book, and one I recommend wholeheartedly to my patients. It deals with women's low sexual desire in unusual depth, and in a remarkably balanced way---encompassing the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual aspects of womens' sexuality.If you still love your partner and your relationship and you still want to bond, but your sex drive has vanished, this is the best book you could ever read. Reclaiming Desire is the thinking woman's antidote to helplessness. It gives you the guidemap to pinpoint what is wrong, the courage to take responsibility for your part, the voice of a wise, ingenious, loving guide to cheer you on, and all the strategies you will need to change your libido. The chapter on the "Miracle of Motherhood" is a masterpiece. It should be required reading for all parents-to-be, and the professionals who take care of them.This is a fabulous book and a first-rate contribution to the literature on women and sexuality.Aline Zoldbrod Ph.D.AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Diplomate in Sex Therapy,Psychologist and Couples TherapistAuthor, Sex Smart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual Life and What To Do About It, and co-author, Sex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On.

A Must Read!

Reclaiming Desire is a must read for any woman who finds that her sex drive is not what it should be or what she wants it to be, and is willing to take steps to fix it. According to the authors there is no "quick fix" for low libido. Instead, the authors lay out a comprehensive plan for improving sex drive that makes sense and actially works! Their plan starts out with a self test that helps you identify why your sex drive is decreased. Then they explain how to fix it. For example, some women may find that they need to take hormones like testosterone or dopamine, while other women may need help with emotional or relationship problems. They also give a lot of useful information about some popular aphrodisiacs like ginko and ginseng, and talk about sexual desire at different stages of life (after giving birth, menopause, etc). There are lots of useful bullet points that summarize each chapter. One of the best parts of this book are the stories from actual patients that were treated by the authors. All in all this is good reading and lots of help for those of us whose sex drive is not what it once was.

Wish they had written this sooner!

Dr. Goldstein changed my life and probably saved my marriage. This is not an overstatement.After having two children in a relatively short span of time, my husband and I found less time for each other and, when we had time, I was utterly exhausted and disinterested. The advice that Dr. Goldstein and his partner offer in their practice, and what they tell you in this book, will definitely help you understand the root causes of some of these issues. Sometimes things are more complicated than they seem at first. But more importantly, this book will give you some concrete action items to help you make positive changes. I was lucky in that my "issues" were among the most common out there and are very treatable. But that didn't make it any easier for me to cope with. I am fortunate to have found Dr. Goldstein and have been a patient of his. I have personally found Dr. Goldstein to be pragmatic and honest in his dealings with his patients. I appreciate that about him. His advice is straight-forward without being clinical or harsh. Above all, this is useful stuff that anyone can benefit from. Talking about sex is sometimes awkward but Drs. Goldstein and Brandon talk to you like a real person in this book. Most importantly they give you real answers.