Pulling Your Own Strings: Dynamic Techniques for Dealing with Other People and Living Your Life As You Choose

by Wayne W. Dyer

Book Overview

This directed and practical book shows how to stop being manipulated by others and start taking charge of your own life. This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0060919752
• Release Date: August 2001
• Publisher: William Morrow Paperbacks
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 0.57 lbs.
• Dimensions: 8.0" x 0.7" x 5.3"

Customer Reviews

Pulling Your Own Strings by Dr. Dyer

This work provides specific guidance on how to take controlof one's life ( to the extent that is possible). For instance,he describes how to operate from a position of strength byplacing people on an equal plane and addressing them by theirfirst names. In addition, the author criticizes our tendencyto be governed by past events that we can no longer controlor change. He explains the need to draw boundaries and assertourselves in defense of our basic rights. The author recommends the behavioral approach in order to respond to peopleand events that make us uncomfortable. Above all, the authorwarns about placing institutions over ourselves and personalself-worth and satisfaction. Finally, the author asks us tolook around ourselves in an effort to make our daily livesbetter for everyone. He even quotes the Declarationof Independence (July 4, 1776):"All experience hath shown that mankind are more disposed tosuffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed."The book is an excellent behaviorally based reference whichcan help us manage our affairs both privately and in theworkplace setting.

Read this book first, then Your Sacred Self

Dr Dyer is a rare individual. He really understands. He has found simplicity. The truth is simple, that which I have yet to understand! I read this book first, and felt compelled to learn how to pull my own strings. I freed myself from outside influences by reading this book, Pulling Your Own Strings. We learn to be more than a sailboat, drifting on the sea with a fixed sail, frolicking about, at the mercy of every wave and breeze. I learned how to be effective at grabbing the control panel, that pull the strings of my life, which at times takes a bit of assertion. Combining that with one of his other books, "Your Sacred Self, I gained peace. I finally found the key to dealing with stress. I did so by learning what meditation really is from him. Instead of a lotus position, and humming a mantra, I learned that it is simply sitting or lying still, undisturbed, for ten or fifteen minutes, letting all thoughts leave my mind. Each thought is tied to an emotion. You come to a place that is quiet and peaceful, and your arise refreshed, renewed, and unfettered with stress and resentments. Then your greatest problem solving mind is present, solutions appear. It is true. What a great tool. Instead of resorting to addictive, and destructive habits, or substances to deal with stress, he has shown me the ultimate solution. So there you have it, with Pulling Your Own Strings, you learn to be the master of your own life, and recognize those, and those things, that try to direct us, and not neccessarily for unselfish reasons. Then freed from outside control, we begin to see that the solutions to our lives are available to us from within. In Your Sacred Self, he teaches us that ego is controlling, and dominating our lives. It is at war with your greater spiritual self. It keeps us from sitting still. Always striving, but never arriving. Let the noise and clamor cease. We are all one together. We don't need ego driven domination, but rather cooperation. Get rid of the anger. Learn how to eliminate the negative influences in your life. The most powerful way for someone else to control you, is to make you angry. Once they see it no longer works, they usually leave you alone, or it makes them angrier that they no longer can control you. "It is like heaping coals of fire on their heads" Then acquire joy and peace. I know it sounds like cliches, but it is true, and I don't know how else to say it. Dr Dyer gives you the tools, to build a new house. Or should I say, he reminds you of the house that has been there all along. Only the expressions are original, the thoughts lie within us all.

Pulling Your Own Strings

I read this book 22 years ago, when I was an 18 year old heading off to college. The book provided me with ways to be assertive and achieve my goals without allowing others to walk all over me.Now, I am the mother of three teenagers and am reading this book again with my 14 year old daughter, in an effort to help her through a difficult time dealing with an authority figure (who is manipulative and abusing her power.)I am simply amazed at how much of the information in the book has worked its way into my core beliefs over the years...from handling difficult people and situations to teaching my kids how to handle bullies. As we were reading the introduction, my daughter said, "Mom, I don't need to read this." When I asked her why, she commented "you've been teaching it to me all my life!"Young adults, I highly recommend that each and every one of you read this book. Learn to stand up for yourself and be respected for doing so. Parents, you'll want to read it too!

Learn to stand up for yourself!

This is the first "self-help" book that I have attempted to read, and I am very impressed with it! It starts off somewhat slow, but when you are determined to get through this book and understand what Dr. Dyer is actually saying, then your whole mindset will change! This book has definitely opened my eyes to my own self-defeating behaviors, and it has made me want to stand up for myself and stop being victimized by others. I have really taken to heart the advice in this book. I belive that most people can feel better about themselves and improve their situations in life if they put to use the techniques that Dyer talks about. The majority of our self-esteem problems come from how we view ourselves, and when we realize that we count as a person, then our situation will most likely start to improve. Dyer has given the most analytical minds (including those like me with a degree in Psychology) a lot of food for thought.

A Super Mega Self-Help Book.

I highly recommend this book "Pulling Your Own Strings" By Dr. Wayne Dyer, as it provides vital essential teachings on the fact that we literally have the power to make our own choices in life. A Great Personal Stength how to book. I Great book on maximizing your confidence and self-esteem. A brilliant, beneficial, excellent self-help book of encouragement, and teaching you how to operate from strength and freedom. A must read. From: Diana Montgomery in California.