Not Your Mother's Divorce: A Practical, Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Guide to Surviving the End of a Young Marriage

by Sarah Touborg and Kay Moffett

Book Overview

No matter what your age, divorce is one of life's greatest challenges. But while your parents, friends, and lawyers may be chock-full of advice, the truth is that young women who divorce today face a... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0767913507
• Release Date: December 2003
• Publisher: Harmony/Rodale
• Length: 272 Pages
• Weight: 0.60 lbs.
• Dimensions: 8.3" x 0.7" x 5.5"

Customer Reviews

A MUST-READ for anyone going through a divorce

At 32 years old, I'm the first one of my friends to go through a divorce (after 5 years of marriage), and while my girlfriends were tremedously supportive of me, none of them have ever gone through something like this and there are some things that only someone who has survived a divorce can understand. This book was like an old friend, comforting me, guiding me through the process, assuring me that everything I was feeling was normal and to be expected. A year later, it still sits on my nightstand, battered and highlighted in yellow marker, being read and re-read whenever I need support. Of course, this book is not substitute for therapy, but I don't think I could have gotten through this past year without it. I would recommend this book to ANYONE going through a divorce. I've also seen some reviews on here by someone who finds the book to be "pro-divorce", and that is not the case at all. The authors merely acknowledge the fact that divorces happen, provide comfort and advice without passing judgement on the how and why, and help those of us who are going through the process to make the best of the situation and feel somewhat hopeful about our futures.

One-of-a-kind

This book is not for people who are not sure whether they want a divorce. It will not suggest that you work harder on your marriage, and it will not tell you that you are making a mistake. It will also not give helpful advice on how to save a marriage. I think the title should be sufficient warning of its target audience. That said, it is a completely unique book that allows a young, childless woman going thorough divorce to feel that she is not alone. It gave me hope that I might someday be happy again. As someone who had been repeatedly lied to and betrayed by a husband who had been given countless "second chances," I was not interested in hearing that I should try harder to save the marriage. Well written by intelligent, educated women who had been through divorce themselves, the book really does sound like the advice of a close girlfriend. This book was a life-saver for me.

Best Girlfriend's Guide to Divorce in your 20s & 30s!

I went to the bookstore to pick up a book on divorce - what I found was books that were either very heavy on the legal end or books for women with children. There was nothing out there for books for 20/30 somethings going through a divorce within the first 5 years -that spoke to me, not my mother. Someone recommended this book and I ordered it within the first 3 weeks after the big break-up. I was looking for something that spoke to me, in a girlfriend type of tone, not a preaching tone and this was PERFECT. It took me through what to expect in the beginning, the cycle of what would happen, how to tell people (or not tell people), and what to expect. It had great vignettes within it that illustrated situations similar to what I was going through and served as a general companion that helped me get through the healing process in the first six months. It was exactly what I needed. I would strongly recommend this to someone in their 20s/30s, first marriage, no kids - its right in-line with the chick lit out there and laughs and cries with you. Without this, I don't think I could have handled everything as well as I have. A must read over all the other books on the subject out there!

Such a GREAT read!

Not even 30 and struggling with ending my marriage only 3 months old has left me with a myriad of feelings. Coming from a family of divorce I obviously did NOT want to go down the same path. Not Your Mother's Divorce has shown me that I'm not alone in what I am about to go through and in "real world" terms. I found that other books tend to focus on bitter custody battles and how to cope as a single mom- neither of which applies to me or anyone else going through a "starter marriage". Moffett & Touborg give a perspective that I could completely relate to - reading this book is like having my best girlfriend sitting next to me encouraging me that what I'm about to go through will only make me stronger and that I WILL in fact survive and be better off for it and a MUCH happier person! I can hardly wait! I can only say that I am grateful to have read this book at this point in my life. I've learned a lot about myself, what went wrong in my marriage (before we got married!) and this book will with out a doubt help me face the world as a delightful divorcee!

Dr. Phil meets Cynthia Rowley meets Drew Barrymore!

Even though I have not been married, this book was truly insightful, providing helpful advice to navigate emotional hills and valleys when facing the end of any relationship. As I ended my engagement, I appreciated the lack of maudlin prose and being able to turn to the authors' comfort, sass and wisdom that was available as a resource at all hours of the night (and far less fattening than Ben and Jerry's)! A must read!