Nobody's Baby Now: Reinventing Your Adult Relationship with Your Mother and Father

by Susan Newman

Book Overview

Whether you're a CEO or schoolteacher, single or married with children, you are still your parents' child. Regardless of your age, you can be transported back into adolescent angst by what you... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0802714072
• ISBN13: 9780802714077
• Release Date: April 2003
• Publisher: Walker Books
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.3" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

Simple, solid and marriage saving

As a professional in the field, what I like about Nobody's Baby Now is that the author gets to the point quickly and in clear, concise language. The author makes complicated problems and issues with parents easy to sort out and resolve. Her real life examples make you think she's talking about you and your parents. She has solutions for adult children who resort to child-like behavior when with parents, who allow parents to continue to run their adult lives or parents who put a wedge in their adult children's marriages. She's got a solid handle on in-laws and tells readers how to get their own; and she totally understands overly involved, judgemental grandparents. Her main points are highlighted in boxed areas for quick reference which tell you how to get a "grip" on the issues you may have with a parent.This is a book that can save marriages from parents' destructive behaviors and put adult children in charge of their own lives by making them independent of Mommy and Daddy without severing this powerful and all important connection. It is must reading for all adult children - be their problems with their parents big or small.

Escaping the parent trap (s)

A friend gave this book to me and once I started reading it, I couldn't put it down. Susan Newman's Nobody's Baby Now is for any one of us "grownups" who has tried to sort through the complex range of Oh-not-that-again feelings that come up over and over when dealing with a parent(s). I found the insightful tips in Chapter 12, on friendship, especially helpful for breaking through those pesky patterns that land me in those old familiar territories of conflict.

Down with the Queen of Difficult

Down with the Queen of DifficultThe words, difficult, stubborn, nosy, busy-body, controlling, demanding were invented for my mother.She was always in my face about what I wore, the latest guy, when am I going to settle down, telling me not to see this friend or that. She had to know every detail of my life. She made me utterly miserable, then I read "Nobody's Baby Now.' Voila! I can handle her now. Newman offers ideas on how to change YOUR thinking about a needy parent and she shows you howto make a parent feel loved while you pull back from her. I learned at age 32 I'm an adult, and I can make some of the rules about our relationship and do it nicely. What a blessing this book has been for me.

A relationship lifesaver

When I saw the title of Dr. Newman's book I immediately bought it. For years I'd struggled in a strained relationship with my mother and I thought maybe this book would give me the advice I'd been searching for. Amazingly, it did!Nobody's Baby Now helped me look at my relationship with my mother from a different perspective, understand issues from her point of view and forgive some acts I thought were unforgiveable.Now, while our relationship might not be perfect, we are able to enjoy each others company and be more honest with each other.Thank you Dr. Susan Newman!!

This Is A Book For Adults

If you think you have a dysfunctional relationship with your parents and that they are the root cause for your unhappiness then this book is not for you. If, instead, you are an adult who takes responsibility for their own happiness and you are looking to improve the quality of your relationship with your parents this is a helpful tool towards that goal. Moving past the parent-child bond and into a richer more fullfilling relationship, dare I say friendship, can be difficult but if you're willing to be a grown up about it this book can assist you in tackling some of the issues you may be avoiding.The authors personal anecdotes and related stories from her study subjects are helpful illustrations to which many of us can relate. It shows that even in the best of families we all have issues when it comes to dealing with our parents on an adult level. The chapters are concise and to the point without being cold and clinical.