Necessary Losses

by Judith Viorst

Book Overview

From grief and mourning to aging and relationships, poet and Redbook contributor Judith Viorst presents a thoughtful and researched study in this examination of love, loss, and letting go.Drawing on... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0449911527
• ISBN13: 9780449911525
• Release Date: August 1996
• Publisher: Ballantine Books
• Length: 447 Pages
• Weight: 0.93 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.0" x 5.5" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

Not what I was expecting, was absolutely amazing!!!!

I thought this book was going to talk about marriage relationships. But, it talks about losses with growing up and moving on from parents. And pretty much loss at every stage of life. It does have a section on marriage. I liked in that section that she says no two adults can do each other more damage than husband and wife. Which really stuck out to me with what I have going on in my life right now. This book was a fantastic book! I am glad that I read it!

Important book!

I spent a couple of years of my clinical training working at an agency that offers grief counseling and maintains a twenty-four hour suicide prevention hotline. I chose Ms. Viorst's wonderful book to write a report required for the agency's training class in grief counseling. We also were given an assignment to prepare a list of the losses we experienced over the course of our lives. What an enlightening exercise, especially as we listened to fellow students share what they'd written! Others' losses reminded many of us of events we'd forgotten, events that had affected us profoundly. It is so easy to forget what is most painful!Contrary to what some reviewers have said, the information that Ms. Viorst offers in her excellent book is not widely appreciated. I've worked with grief clients whose therapist referred them to the agency when they experienced a significant loss. I've been on the hotline when therapists as well as regular folks called with their bewilderment at how to respond to the loss of a loved one, or equally baffling, how to be with a friend who has experienced such loss. Ms. Viorst normalizes the inevitability of loss and rightly observes how our growing capacity to hold ourselves open to these losses deepens our human experience. I've recommended the book many times to both clients and friends. I encourage those who pick up the book to slow down and digest what she has to say. Let the thoughts seep through your days and weeks, your meetings with friends and family. Buddhists meditate on the vase already broken. In truth everyone we love will be lost to us, whether through their passing or our own. It is not morbid to recognize that fact. Rather it can become the beginning of appreciation and gratitude. Ms. Viorst is not a Buddhist, so far as I know, but she clearly recognizes this ancient wisdom. Opening one's heart to loss is a sure way to open to love.

Excellant Read; Revealing More as You Go Through Life

This book is nearly a masterpiece. While it is obviously influenced by the best parts of pscychoanalysis, it is far from dogmatic and reveals how all human beings suffer a succession of separations and losses from which we (hopefully) grow. It is not a book about "Winning through adversity" or "The will always triumphs", but in times of profound life change; it always has something to offer and is ultimately quite reassuring. I have owened an earlier edition doe over 12 years and still refer to it from time to time. A must read for anyone who seeks understanding of their life and the passages we go through, including how our earlier experiences influence our later ones.

Helped me understand the death of my mother

A book that gave me great understanding to life, loss and those events we fear in life. I read this book over five years ago and look to it to provide support to a friend who recently lost a wife. It is an easy read but allows for great reflection about ones life as you read it. I recommend it to all that are ready for greater wisdom about life's pains.