The first time I attended a National Guard family event, I felt like I had been abducted by aliens " recalls Mary Corbett, author of National Guard 101: A Handbook for Spouses. "I didn't understand anything I had never been in an armory before. I didn't know the difference between an officer and an enlisted soldier. I didn't even know how to address the commander or his wife " Corbett decided to "wing it," rationalizing that since her husband...