My Guy: A Gay Man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship

by Martin Kantor

Find and keep Mr. Right.

Most single gay men wish they were in a relationship but don't recognize that they have set up obstacles to a happy, long-lasting connection. My Guy offers a step-by-step approach that any gay man can use to take charge of his life, master his flaws through self-awareness and dedicate himself to creating a great relationship for himself and his lover.

Dr. Martin Kantor, a psychiatrist who specializes in gay...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1570719675
• ISBN13: 9781570719677
• Release Date: June 2002
• Publisher: Sourcebooks Casablanca
• Length: 240 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 7.0" x 8.0"

Customer Reviews

Now that you're out, read this!

After you read your "coming out" book, this is the next book you should read. I must say that it has excellent advice on dealing with your inner expectations and ideals - reality checks, etc. The book is an awesome read, serious, and easy to understand. Prince Charming is out there! This book will help you get started. I do agree that this book is more for the beginner, and for those looking for serious relationships.

Here's Another Book that Became My Bible

Martin Kantor's book, My Guy: A Gay man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship is one of those few books that I would classify as one of my Bibles. I enjoyed reading this book because it was in-sightful and highly motivating. It also gives valuable informa-tion on psychological concepts, etc. Although the book is geared to a gay clientele, individuals ofother orientations can certainly benefit from reading this book.Once My Guy is read completely, it can be refered to again to re-fresh one's memory or to consult about certain issues. In the introduction it stated that many other books on the same subject tend to be superficial and light weight in approach.I found this to be true as far as another book that I read en-titled Husband Hunting Made Easy. It had advice such as "Never dateanyone better looking than you; Don't date men who wax; and Never date anyone with the same first name." In addition, My Guy presents information on how to become Mr.Right for someone else, how to worm one's way into another's heart, and, what I found to be truly helpful, the concept that one needs to network with others in order to meet that special person. As a person who has done historical and cultural research, Ifind Kantor's advice to not dedicate one's life to becoming famous and/or leaving ones' mark on the world somewhat difficult to follow. However this is one area where perhaps some of us need to work on or modify somewhat in order to fullfill our needs. (This advice that is being referred to is found in Kantor's section on distractions.) An important message for gay men to hear is what surely is themain idea of this book, which in summary is, "Being in a relationship is better than not being in one. So get into a relationship! Stop looking for that knight in shining armour. If a guy is good enough, then go for it." Reading Kantor's book with its step by step process will definitely change your life.

Finally good sound advice for gay men to follow!

Finally a book that is directed towards gay men written by a gay man who is experienced in helping others find stable, healthy, monogamous relationships. This is what many of us need out here - not another relationship-touting self-help book that goes by stereotypes and pre-conceived notions and leaves you feeling even more hopeless if you are indeed hoping to build a real relationship with someone of the same sex. It is possible and Dr. Kantor gives us a wonderful step-by-step approach. I find myself going back and reading again certain sections and committing it to memory. THANK YOU, Dr. Kantor, for this wonderful guide. It is much needed and much appreciated.

Written from experience (and the heart)

Very insightful and direct. Most interesting were the discussions of networking to meet Mr. Right and improving yourself while seeking, and the patience required during this time. Also, not having unrealistic expectations. What lends most credibility is that it was written by someone with experience - both personally and from counseling gay men. Another interesting chapter was on where to meet someone. I didn't want to put it down.

Super book!

"My Guy: A Gay Man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship" is beautifully written, and chock full of useful information and advice on relationships. While specifically geared toward gay male relationships, the book has value for both gay and straight readers alike, and offers practical tips that the reader can utilize right away. Dr. Kantor uses his professional expertise to address practical nitty-gritty of finding and keeping a loving relationship---and does so in a useable, easy-to-read format. A great book!