In his book, L' tranger ou l'union dans la diff rence, the French Jesuit historian Michel de Certeau (1921-1986) wrote, When we confess our incapacity to know others, we confess simultaneously their existence, our own (to which we are returned) and a fundamental reciprocity between them and us. To the extent we agree not to identify ourselves with anything they can expect from us and not to identify them with satisfactions or assurances we hope to...