For many years the dominant focus in gender relations has been the differences between men and women. Authors such as Deborah Tannen ( IYou Just Don't Understand R) and John Gray ( IMen are from Mars, Women are from Venus R) have argued that there are deep-seated and enduring differences between male and female personalities, styles, even languages. Elizabeth Aries sees the issue as more complex and dependent on several variables, among them the person's...