Love and Anger: The Parental Dilemma

by Nancy Samalin and Catherine Whitney

Book Overview

Winner of Child Magazine's Best Parenting Boo of 1991. "An honest look at how children can drive the most loving parent to periodic madness, along with practical suggestions for how to cope."--Adele Faber.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0140129928
• ISBN13: 9780140129922
• Release Date: May 1992
• Publisher: Penguin Books
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.40 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.1" x 7.8"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

Great tool for parents!

I just finished LOVE AND ANGER and I have to say it is going to save my life! I was acting like a complete ogre with my kids (8 and 11) and was feeling incredibly guilty about screwing them up for life. My joke with friends about the therapy my kids were destined for, "Well there's another hour on the couch for so and so," was not so funny any more. This book was the answer to my prayers. It has given me so many practical tips on how to react to my children in less angry ways. I am already finding myself listening and empathizing more with my kids' feelings. It is a must read for parents.

Amazing, tremendous read.

I am a father of 3 wonderful children but our relationship has been somewhat rocky at times. Samalin's book has not only helped me deal with my anger and feel less guilty but it has also greatly improved my relationship with all three of my kids. Samalin's book gives tons of practical examples of how to speak to your children in an affirmative rather than negative manner, and get them to do what you want without causing resentment. I've read this book twice and I plan to read it again so that I will continue to apply it's many useful concepts. Once you read this book you will definitely notice that you are more in control, calmer and can communicate with your children in a much more effective manner. This is by far the best book on parenting I have ever read and is an essential parenting resource.

Good Parents Do Get Angry!

This book is a must-read for anyone who's ever been angry with their kids...in other words, every parent! In the second of her three incredible books, Ms. Samalin shows us that it is normal to sometimes feel intense anger toward our children. Using real-life examples from her parenting workshops, she describes the most common triggers for parental anger, and provides specific techniques for dealing with it in a way that we can be proud of later. In addition to helping me feel better about my own behavior, I know that responding in the ways Samalin suggests has helped me to provide a much better model of anger management for my kids. After all, this is not a skill that comes naturally; it is learned, for better or worse, at home. I am so grateful to have had this book to turn to when my children were still impressionable preschoolers.

Great Source for Parents with Kids of All Ages

What I found most helpful about this book was that it enabled me to let go of the guilt of yelling at my child, and found the ability to step back, think for a moment, and then respond rather that be a "reaction machine" to his outbursts. As I used the tips in the book his outbursts became less frequent. The audio tape of this book helped my husband who drives a lot without too much time to read.

Great resource for dealing with an often troubling emotion.

This book takes a frank look at anger in both children and parents. Nancy Samalin helps parents to feel less guilty about getting angry and she offers useful techniques to help both parents and children deal with this often troubling emotion. Parents will recognize themselves and their children in the familiar stories she includes. This is an important book that can be a continuing resource throughout the parenting years. I highly recommend it.