Raised as one of only a handful of Asians in my Chicago suburb, I did not want to be part of the Asian culture. It did not seem relevant. Besides, I thought, "Other than skin color, we're all the same, right?" I remember hearing comments from friends such as "I don't think of you as Asian, but just like the rest of us white]." These were meant as compliments (and I often took them as such), but they were confusing, since I, no...