Just Don't Marry One: Interracial Dating, Marriage, and Parenting

by George Yancey and Sherelyn Whittum Yancey

This groundbreaking work provides the perspective of racially diverse Christians as they confront the emotionally-charged issues of interracial dating and marriage. If you are a pastor, professor, or... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 081701439X
• ISBN13: 9780817014391
• Release Date: January 2003
• Publisher: Judson Press
• Length: 235 Pages
• Weight: 0.99 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 6.0" x 9.2"

Customer Reviews

an excellent Biblically based look at interracial dating

This is a great collection of essays from various people with all different points of view on interracial relationships. They all have one thing in common, which is a Biblical, Christian perspective. It focuses more on strictly interracial relationships, rather than general intercultural ones. It includes historical information, personal stories, and stories of interracial couples in the Bible. ***** An addition to my original review. This book is not only for black man/white woman relationships, as the picture on the cover shows. The authors come from a variety of ethnicities, and write about their own experiences. Most of them are Americans and married to Americans, but their differing cultures still affect their relationship. George and Sherelyn Yancey - the editors, also each the author of a chapter. He is an African American, she is a European American Craig S. Keener - a European American married to a woman from the Congo A. Charles Ware - an African American married to a European American Ken Ham - a biologist writing not about inter-cultural marriage but about all people being related through Adam Sundee Tucker Frazier - a biracial woman, providing the perspective of the children of mixed marriages (African American father, European American mother) David Tatlock - a European American married to an African American Art and Debbie Lucero - a triracial Mexican man (with European, African, and Native American ancestors) and a biracial American woman (European American father and Japanese American mother) Randy Woodley - biracial (European American and Native American) married to a biracial woman (also European/Native American) Bob and Jean Chin - Chinese American man and European American woman Olga Soler - multiracial American woman (Taino Indian, Sephardic Jew, African, French, Moor) giving advice to European Americans who would want to marry a multiracial person Michael and Joni Emerson - both European Americans discussing the topic "What if Our Children Date Interracially?" Fred Prinzing - a European American man whose son married an African American Deborah Johnson - an Asian American married to an African American

Personal and Professional

"Just Don't Marry One" is a courageous book. It combines professional insight with personal testimony to affirm interracial relationships and to create a reference work to equip professionals. It can serve as a primer for couples and for pastors, counselors, and spiritual friends. Reviewer: Bob Kellemen, Ph.D., is the author of Beyond the Suffering: Embracing the Legacy of African American Soul Care and Spiritual Direction , Soul Physicians, Spiritual Friends.

Not a full account

This book is not a full account of inter-racial love. Rather this book is only for white women who love black men, which makes it a very slanted account. Probably it is a good resource for this specific circumstance. Unfortunately this book does not examine all the white men who date black women or Mexican women. In these circumstances the children are not as affected by stigma and do not have the same issues of children of white women and black men. Thus this book didn't help answer my questions and probably wont help any men with their issues surrounding inter-racial dating. Seth J. Frantzman

Helpful

This is a very helpful book for anyone involved in or considering interracial dating from a Christian perspective. There are several essays from different points of view.

Who read my mail?

This should be a required read for counselors, pastors, and persons considering interracial marriage, as well as their families. It will serve to explode myths, help both biological and adoptive parents, and heal racial divisions. I liked this book because reading it was like seeing my life on paper. Although having your "mail read" can be an uncomfortable experience--the book raised issues I'd rather forget, or not deal with at all--the confrontation was necessary. Never have I had my frustrations more clearly articulated, my wounds so carefully bound, or my prejudices so carefully confronted and corrected. I laughed out loud while being given excellent advice on how to respond to the curious, and I wept with a Native American brother as his layers of anger were peeled away...I appreciated the authors just calling prejudice what it is so that we all can DEAL with it, and move on to live more meaningful lives. I have "my" copy and my "loan" copy because this book will serve as an important resource to help me answer my children's questions as well as the questions of those in our circle of influence. I consider it to be one of the most useful additions to my personal library.